The Best is Yet to Come!

The Best is Yet to Come...is that a cliche or do we truly believe that The Best is Yet to Come? Day in and day out each of us are striving to get to that place of "best". What exactly does it mean? Some feel that the best is in a relationship. Some feel the best is in their occupation. Some even feel that the best is in their family dynamics. Really...what are we striving for?

If you've never thought about this...the time has come. I mean I'm glad to be the one to bring this to you...but errrrr we all need answers to this question. Are we ever truly at our best? As a human race we are continually trying to be bigger, better, for lack of a better word....be our best. When we think of all the work we do day in and day out are we achieving that goal of being the best? Is it even a goal??

I have my hands in multiple genres trying to find my niche and be the best at it so that my family will not have to want for anything. The reality is we will always want more but the need isn't there. There is a difference between wanting and needing. We need nothing yet we want lots of things. I'm working on simplicity in my life. The simple things make me happy. Spending time with my family, friends and ALONE even make me feel like I'm at my best.

I am continually learning how to be not in a romantic relationship...(grammatical suicide)...yet I long for it because that's what I'm use to. I'm a relationship girl ya know! I can roll with the best of the singles out here living my life and shit...but at the end of the day...coming home to a significant other is my thing. Welp...according to all those Facebook "your future holds" quizzes...I'll be engaged and/or married in no time....Lol!

I said all that to say The Best is Yet to Come! Stay focused...Stay patient...Stay true to yourself. Not everyone will support you...and that's ok. When it's your time...it's your time because The Best is Yet to Come!

#findyourhappy

With Love

LR WILSON, FOUNDER
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Worthy of Value

Often times we question our worth based on the actions of others and/or their opinions of us. Although I am fairly confident in many aspects of my life, I often question what is my worth? Is there an actual numerical value that is associated with who I am? All questions I can not really answer yet I'm seeking something to define my worth.

Well what I do know is that it's not in a man. Took me awhile to figure that out I must readily admit! I often feel like there is so much more I could be doing. I want so many things and my patience is somewhat limited when I think of what I want to attain...how to get there...and hell why isn't it hurrying up to get me to where I want to be!!?? I get in this self pity funk!
Not a depression but a funk because yes I'm an overachiever who thrives on chaos that help build me....not bring drama.

I get comments all the time from both men and women who tell me I'm beautiful. I'm smart. I'm a good woman. I have a big heart. All those things are wonderful and true I must say...lol...but it doesn't define my worth. I can be many things in many areas because I'm built like that. I'm truly someone that can adjust and survive the storm no matter what. Which is both a blessing and a curse.

Back to my worth...Your worth...Our worth! How do you ascertain what that truly is? Some people find worth in material things. Some find it in beauty. Some find it in stepping out on faith. Some find it in not doing anything. How do you find it?

2019 got here pretty damn fast! So with that said, time is moving and in order to maximize on what we want in life, we must identify our worth. I'm worthy of all things meant for me in my destiny. Nothing more nothing less will I ask for; however I will ask for an overflow so that anything dripping from the pot will help build someone else.

#findyourhappy

With Love,

LR Wilson, Founder
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The Power of Invisibility

Anytime a superhero has a super power of invisibility, they activate that in order to yessssss become invisible! Many of us wish that we had that power from time to time just to get a break from life. Now that the hustle and bustle of the holidays are done, everyone let's just take a deep breath! Activate your invisibility shield and regroup yourselves.

Family, friends, loved ones all had your undivided attention those past few days, weeks or even months because you wanted to make sure that they were happy. My children ask every year what I want for Christmas. Truth be told, I never want anything material from them. I only want for them to be happy and us all to be together. That makes me happy! Now that they are older and have families of their own, I never really know how they are spending the Christmas holiday or any holiday truth be told. It's my favorite time of the year.....well let's face it outside of my own birthday...boom! Just in case the universe forgot to tell you....it's August 14th!! Whew...glad we cleared that up!

For the past 3 years, I didn't know how the holidays would go because I've never spent one without my kids and my husband. Year one was R.O.U.G.H! Honey you could've poured me in a cup. There was hostility and sadness yet we pushed through faking it until we made it. "We" is set apart for the ex and I. Year two....uhhhh keep letting that cup overflow because again I was a hot mess and more pouring happened. I wanted to not only turn on my invisible shield, but keep it on FOREVER! Babbbbyyyy year three found it's way here....y'all better get y'all lives! Honey I was back in the game and gave absolutely zero fucks! I had my kids, my happiness and theirs which pulled me through from year two! We were cordial and for the most part get along....from as far as I can tell.....now that things are done. A few loose ends here and there need to happen so we are "done done"...but I became visible again!

There will be a time or two, hell or 100, that you will need to activate your invisible shield in order to realign. That's ok! Step away, do you, get some clarity, direction and calmness back into your life. No one can take your shine away so when you reactivate....blind the hell out of them! You were not created to remain invisible! That's a super power needed for specific reasons.....so turn your light back on and #findyourhappy!

When you're invisibility becomes visible, you're a beast to be reckoned with!

#findyourhappy

With Love,

LR WILSON, FOUNDER
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Unapologetic

Unapologetic for being exactly the person you groomed me to be
The one that lied in order for you to see me

Unapologetic for leaving the girl you once knew behind
Her innocence shattered from your lies

Unapologetic for believing that one day she could be exactly what you needed
Only to realize she had been defeated

Unapologetic for unanswered questions that you really didn't want the answers to
Those same questions that you just knew you knew

Unapologetic for the way you viewed her soul
Naive enough to believe that the two of you would grow old
Sitting together reciting stories untold

Unapologetic for the worth you threw away
I'm exactly what you thought I would never be on this very day

Unapologetic for the tears that were shed
Spending days and sometimes weeks in bed

Unapologetic for the strength I gained
Through the trials, tribulations and pain

Unapologetic for walking in my destiny
I'm going to be exactly who you believed I couldn't be

Unapologetic for who I am now
A woman with purpose...I know right.. WOW!

I said all of this in order to say
I'm unapologetic in that way

Sweet Dreams Collection
LR Wilson

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It's My Bloggerversary!!

Today is my Bloggerversary!!!! Yes I made that up right here and right now. This month has been all of the following for me:

Serenity
The month of December has brought me so much peace to unreconciled feelings in my life. We come and go everyday and people don't even know us well enough to see that we are not at peace with many things. In my case it's been old feelings. Because I'm human. .when you care about someone or something and those feelings are suppressed, they find their way of seeping out. Mine came out in tears. Tears of remembrance of the good times and tears of joy which brought me back to my place of serenity.

Power
I never knew just how much power I have until this month as well. Believing in myself is an ongoing struggle for me in many areas. The reason being is I want things to be done right and never let myself done. I am indeed my worst critic. Once I received the final divorce decree I began to reflect on all the things I needed to get done ASAP. I began them, then I was halted in my steps. I felt powerless and like I won't be able to get things done because I wanted them to happen instantaneously. Well I'm here to tell you...that's not how it works. So I'm just slowing down and regaining the power I do have...waiting for direction at the appropriate time.

Integrity
Yes honey!! I had to hold my head up and move right along knowing that I was doing the right thing. I asked for nothing more and nothing less than I rightfully deserved and was supposed to have. I don't understand how people have time to be spiteful in divorce proceedings. If nothing else...please have some integrity in what you're doing. Not only you are being affected, everyone in your circle will be affected. Show them that you have integrity so they too will model that same behavior in things they encounter. Be on the up and up!

Perseverance
I've been fighting for my life since I left my mother's womb! It's safe to say that I will stay the course and push through with all that I have. I'm someone that doesn't give up easy, hence the years it took to get to this place I am now. I may become discouraged at times because I want things to happen now, but the difference with me from some is that I don't give up until I've made it my business to try everything in MY power to make it happen. I'm a soldier and I'm a survivor. It's what I do!

Redemption
Finally this is my redemption story. Writing this blog was one of the best therapy session additions I have ever encountered. It has allowed me to be candid and honest with myself as well as with the audience. Some days were really hard during these last 52 weeks since I started, but it needed to happen in order for me to ARRIVE!

People were inquiring about what I was going to say on the Bloggerversary blog. I said I don't know because I haven't been given direction. I wait and wait and wait...lo and behold the fingers get to pecking away at the keyboard as words, emotions, truths hit the page.

There are big plans in the works for 2019 and Channeling Tequila brand. Whatever you do in life...just know that IT WILL HAPPEN if you have serenity, power, integrity, and perseverance to get to redemption!

Thank you so very much for allowing me to be a part of your story in whatever way I have been. I'm turning the page and opening a new chapter. Will you come with me on this journey?

#findyourhappy

With Love
LR Wilson, Founder
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Round of Applause!

One of my favorite songs is Take a Bow by Rihanna.  The chorus is very profound and goes like this:

How about a round of applause
A standing ovation

But you put on quite a show
Really had me going
Now it's time to go
Curtain's finally closing
That was quite a show
Very entertaining
But it's over now (but it's over now)
Go on and take a bow
But it's over now

When we approach the end of things, no matter what it may be, we tend to reflect on what happened to get us to this place or what is going to happen after arriving at the end.  Well, guess what . .we have reached the end and right now I am at a rebuild state of my life.  As painful, insulting and embarrassing as a divorce is, we have to accept things as they are and move right along. Congratulate those who played a part in it because there is no time like the present to rebuild who you are!  I have been doing just that!  Rebuilding and re-establishing who I am, what I want and how to go about doing it.  I once believed that we were a "power couple" as he told me.  Of course at that time the things I know now I did not know. I would never minimize my role in the whole thing because that's not who I am.  I will say however that . . .we have been through some shit babbbbyyyy . . but at the end of the day I still wanted us to be that "power couple".  Well power is distributed to each of us with different realms of responsibility. 

In order to be part of a "power couple" first things first . . hell you need to be a couple!  Secondly, you must both work towards the same goal and have the same interested investments on how to reach that goal.  Obviously you will not always agree on one strategy to get there, but you must at least come to a common ground.  Everyone has a different way of doing things and just because it's not your way, doesn't exclude it from being a right or wrong way.  The key is COMMON GROUND.    Now that the show is over . . .sadly, yet emphatically I must go on!  I must continue to strive forward and make sure I am doing what's best not only for myself; but for my kids and the people's lives I am impacting on a daily basis. No matter what you are facing . . .please understand that you MUST GO ON!  Many are depending on your success and are applauding you from behind the scenes if not in front of you. You don't really need accolades to be the BEST YOU . . JUST BE IT!

#findyourhappy

With Love,

LR Wilson, Founder

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The Possibility of Possible

This title has been stirring in my soul for several days. As I awaited direction, I also waited for the right words to put to paper. Most often times we underestimate the possibility of possible in our lives. We come and go as if we are robotic never really understanding the reasoning behind our movement. Lord knows in a million years I would have never seen all this movement coming/going!

When you embrace the possibility of possible you allow yourself to open up to new things, new people, new habits and new energy. No one is ever really ready for change, so I'm here to tell you it will be and is hard especially when you didn't see it coming. The last three years of my life have been a rollercoaster physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually and financially. If you know me, you know that unless I am at rock bottom damn near licking the dirt, I will not ask for help. I make it work and I make it happen. Obviously through God..who provides all things...but you know what I'm saying.

Some days I did not know if I had enough gas to even get to work and earn a paycheck. That didn't deter me. I'm sure you're probably thinking "well she's working six million jobs and three million side gigs so she should be set". Yes I should be if I didnt have the same financial responsibilities, if not more, that I had in a two income household. That's no longer the case, so I had to lean on God and the understanding of the possibility of possible in order to make it through.

My situation never stopped me from giving to others and helping out in any way I could. I had to believe that things would get better no matter what. My kids needed things..although grown and growing...they still needed things and I made it happen. There's a difference between wanting and needing so I will first point that out. I am blessed to have kids that really only come to me when they have exhausted all other resources. I'll just go ahead and say that we take care of each other. My saying to them is always "when I come up we come up".

There are so many of us who take for granted the possibility of possible. The reason is because we are so focused on making things happen when they don't need to. Don't go into debt trying to do something you simply can not do. You have to be able to live after whatever that is you're wanting to do. The possibility of possible is that you may be able to do it and there's a good chance of it happening...but not now.

Anything you put time and energy into will manifest it self to you...for you and with you. Believe that it will all pay off in the end. All your hard work, determination, and selfless love will prove to be all that was needed. Never underestimate what could happen. It's a matter of timing! The possibility of possible!

#findyourhappy

With Love,
LR Wilson, Founder
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