Let your No mean No and your Yes mean Yes!

Over the years I have met so many people that rather save face than say what they really mean. In the end, all it did was interrupt their own peace. I use to be that person. I would say yes to things I 1) had no business doing and 2) didn't even want to do; however it felt "safe" and I wasn't letting anyone down. The reality was I was letting myself down by not saying no instead of yes.

Then one day I had an epiphany! I said no and my God...it was life changing. Not only for me but for other people who were the receivers of that word! The reason being is because I'm a person that enjoys helping people. Well I'm here to tell you that in order to help yourself..let your No mean No and your Yes mean Yes for your own sanity. Not everyone will be okay with your decision to take care of yourself. Trust and believe...honey they will live!

We have to be able to recognize when putting ourselves first is the best Yes we will ever say! It's not selfish...it's selfcare. Let your No mean No and your Yes mean Yes!

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With Love,

LR WILSON, FOUNDER
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Soaring Into Your Destiny

Well let me be the first to tell you that in order to soar with eagles you gotta get away from the crows! I had to learn the hard way that sometimes you have to separate yourself from the things that you want in order to have the things that you need. It's hard as hell to cut things, people and places off in order to be propelled into your destiny. It takes hard work and dedication not even just in the craft you are emerging yourself in but the same goes for staying away from those things, people and places that weigh your wings down!

Most recently I finished/published my very first selfcare journal. I'm already working on a revision because I see so many other things that I could incorporate into the next edition. I wanted the first one to be simple yet impactful. I want the reader to see themselves on every page so that their story can be told in order to help themselves or at least guide them to the areas if selfcare they are in need of. Journals don't need to be workbooks! Which was the hang up on me getting this done. I was under the impression that I needed something big and extravagant with big words and such. Uh no...that's not what God told me to do!

That made me think back to my walk. God is a simple yet amazing God that gives us everything we need. We make things complicated when they don't have to be. Once we put our grimy little hands in the destiny pool without adhering to what we're being told to do..we compromise our own destiny.  Obedience is better than sacrifice. A scripture I will NEVER forget as long as I live. Obviously I'm not free from sin and I don't always do the church thing...but what I do know is when God gives you a whooping because you ain't ackin right...you get in line with what's supposed to be happening.

Soaring into your destiny is not going to be all pretty either! You got to get ugly in order to get to work. The "shine" is off you individually so the glitz and glam will be seen on the perfect work you're putting out. You will lose some people along the way. I know...you thought everyone would be happy for you and they would all support your destiny. Sooooo...yea they won't. I'll just go ahead and say what they won't. Not everybody in your circle is rooting for you. I'm sorry to be the bearer of bad news but it is what it is. You will build an entirely new circle or many circles. Circles that are composed of your supporters. And....yes they will be strangers! Remember you're soaring into your destiny. Just like when a plane has too much weight and you gotta shift the luggage or throw some shit off the plane to survive...that's what it looks like when you are soaring into your destiny! Drop deadweight so you can soar!

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Remember that you too are being propelled into your destiny so you can soar. The question is will you be weighed down and unable to move or will you soar like the eagle you truly are? Only you can answer that!

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With Love,

LR Wilson, Founder
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There Are No Mistakes!

Often times when things don't go the way we planned, we are quick to say it was a mistake! The definition of mistake is an action or judgment that is misguided or wrong according to Webster. Well I'm here to tell you since no one else has...it was a choice that you made. Yes...I know this is some epic shit coming to the surface!

I, too, am guilty of saying I didn't mean to do that...it was a mistake. Then I realized that I did mean to do it. I made a choice for such action to transpire. Many will argue my point and that's ok because I had to get here too. I didn't just arrive at this valuable information. So let me just break it down a little. For instance, if you drink and drive then you happen to cause an accident. It was NOT A MISTAKE. You chose to drink...you chose to drive which in turn caused the accident. That's about as elementary as I can make this.

Fast forwarding to an almost relationship I could have stumbled into after being separated/divorced. Dodge that bullet with a FULL ARMOUR ON....sorry digressed. Anyway,  now that things didn't work out the way the other person thought it would've, you know without me but with someone else, it was a mistake. Nahhh...it wasn't. It was a choice and you chose to work on what was and not what could've been. Congratulations!

I wasn't mad..bitter or upset. Go do you! You asked and I gave. I would never stop anyone from being happy. Please believe that if you think that your life would be happier without me, by all means....LET ME GO! This is for any relationship, friendship, situationship, etc. Happiness is not in another person...it's within you. We are the keepers of our happiness. Don't ever allow someone else to determine what makes you happy because it will fail every time!

The quote attached to this post hit home for me and it was a nice reminder of exactly what I'm saying. With that said...stop making "mistakes" and allow yourself to make choices that help you grow vs stunt your growth.

#findyourhappy

With Love,

LR Wilson, Founder
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The Gift That Keeps on Giving

Have you ever wondered what your gift is? The one that you were born with that no one else has because it was special just for you? Lots of people have the gift of singing but the special thing about it is no one person will ever sound the same because their gift was not given to anyone else. Lots of people know how to dance, cook, are athletic, photographers etc. The reason why they are good at what they do is because they have a gift that keeps on giving no matter what. There's a saying that "music soothes the savage beast". If you ever watched Beauty and the Beast you know what I'm talking about.

I can sing a little bit, I write and I'm a good listener. Those are some of my gifts. The gift I admire the most is the fact that I'm a giver. That can also come back to bite you too because people will take advantage of that. If I see someone struggling and even if I don't have it, I'll give what I have because I know that I'll be blessed in the end. I have given to people in need only to find out they not only had the money for whatever, but they had extra that they spent on luxuries. At first I was heated. Then I remembered that I'll be blessed and note to self...it won't happen again.

Thinking about your gifts that you were born with can sometimes be overwhelming but it doesn't have to be. Work your gifts within the realm of the power you have. Everything has a time and place. The gift that keeps on giving is the one that you continually use to help others. It may be singing, cooking, writing, artistry etc. Whatever it is..just know that gift was especially assigned to you. Be protective of it and use it wisely. This is the season of giving!

What is your gift that keeps on giving? How are you using it to help others and yourself? Remember that YOU'RE UNIQUE and your gift was handpicked for you at birth!

#findyourhappy

With Love,

LR Wilson, Founder
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Just Reflect

I asked several times for the universe to guide me on this week's blog. Each time the word "nothing" was repeated. Then those words were followed by "just reflect". So this week's blog is about nothing specific yet just reflect. I've been doing some more soul searching and reflecting on my future. Finances, credit worthiness, debt elimination and not reduction. I asked for debt reduction, which I'm being granted often then this epiphany happened...or reflection...I need to ask for debt elimination! My debt is reduced every time I pay off a credit card or whatever I have in terms of credit. Now I need to be done with credit period! If I don't have the money...I'm not getting it! The reality is in the world today we need some form of credit in order to determine our credit worthiness to acquire big purchases. So the challenge is to keep those lines of credit without using them.

Reflecting on my future endeavors is both invigorating yet scary. I'm afraid of failure! I guess I won't really know until I do it, huh? Well since this week's blog is about nothing but just reflecting...what are you reflecting on? How will you do things differently not even starting in the New Year but today? Or how will you enhance what you're already doing to get to the next level? Some things just need to be improved not necessarily "changed" 😉!

With that said...take a look in the mirror both physically and metaphorically to see what you need to see. Just reflect!

#findyourhappy

With Love,

LR Wilson, Founder
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I'll Take Divine Connection for 1k, Alex!

I once believed that there is no way you can call someone your friend if you've never met them face to face. Well lo and behold my theory was proven wrong. I've been corresponding with a person over the past 3 or 4 years and we've never met face to face. We met while playing an online game. To be quite honest most of the guys I've conversed with through these game apps really trying to holla at ya! He was different.

Over the years we have had talks about life, financial freedom, God, health, relationships etc. We applaud and support each other as well as scold each other on health issues that aren't being addressed. We have a kindred divine connection. The kind where you don't know you have it until you have it. Not once has he stepped out of line with me. Although I tell him all the time that it takes alot to offend me, he's never been the one to cross the line and I respect that.

Everybody's energy is not good energy. I had to learn that as much as I try to help everyone and be there for everyone, I can't. I have to protect myself and the energy I invite into my life. When you meet a complete stranger and you vibe with them, it's magical. Not even sexual...just pure magical.

Why you ask? Well let me tell you! You are yourself in the raw. You don't have them there to analyze you physically because they only know what you tell them. Now let's be clear, some people will lie and be fake about who they are online. Hell some like that and you've met them! Sorry I digressed...
Anyway, as you get to know a person before meeting them, over years especially, you begin to be invited into their world. Your lives intertwine and bonds are made. Thus this friendship.

The next time you find yourself knowing someone you've never met better than the people you've met, that's quite amazing. Remember to play your cards close to the chest and always bet on black! Divine connections are placed in our lives to guide us as well as for us to guide them. You never know when you'll be chosen. So stay ready so you won't need to get ready.

#findyourhappy

With Love,

LR Wilson, Founder
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Quest for Vision

Well Blog Readers we are embarking fast to the end of the year. Many things I wanted to happen did not; however I am not discouraged. What that meant for me is...IT'S NOT YOUR TIME. When we are in the moment there are so many things we NEED and WANT to happen. After it's all said and done...the universe said No (not now). For 2020 I am downloading a vision board app so that I can plan once again and see what the universe will make sure I'm ready to receive.

I've done many things this year that have been on my bucket list for a very long time. I went to more than one model call and was chosen for them all! I attempted to sell my home and even bought a new one...contingent on the sell of this one obviously! Welp...the universe said No (not yet). I was surprisingly at ease. What we want and what we need are not always one in the same. I'm a firm believer in what's for you is for you and no man or woman can take that away.

God protects us from ourselves! Looking back I could've also drawn others into what was not to be (yet) and all of us would've been screwed (not in a good way). I'm thankful for the universe interrupting what I wanted and not what I needed. As I've always said, in the moment we can't see how we are being shielded from what we want. Everything happens for a reason and in the appropriate season.

This season love who you are and follow the direction of the universe. You will be protected! Have you thought about 2020? Are you waiting? What's your wish? Whatever it may be, just remember it's already written so its yours love!

#findyourhappy

With Love,

LR Wilson, Founder
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