Moving on from a longstanding relationship is hard. It doesn't matter if it was a good one or a bad one, either way when it's time to move on after it has ended there will be some reservation or hesitation. Often times when thinking of moving on, I am crippled with fear. Fear that it will not work out so just forget it. That has kept me captive from moving on to another relationship. I still have anxiety that things will not work out.
Then someone comes along who says all the right things. Does all the right things, yet and still I have reservations because of my own insecurities. Yes yes I know I can do anything and I'm a beacon of light when it comes to empowering others, but when it comes to this relationship thing, I'm just suspicious of everything. I'm trying to manage it all and give people benefit of doubt. I have zero problems with telling them I have trust issues and I have no plans on being in a relationship. Well sometimes our plans are not our own. I found myself longing for that afterall.
Hell I was once told that in order to get to what you need you have to let go of what you want. That's a deep statement. The reality is once you get what you need, it was everything you wanted and you don't even know it. My "type" was 6ft and over, 250 lbs and up with dark skin. That's all I was attracted to. I looked past everyone that didn't meet that "perfect for me" profile. Let me be the first to tell you that didn't work out for me. It wasn't until I started looking beyond my expectations that I saw what I truly needed. I know you're waiting for me to describe him...but naw imma leave this right here.
One of my favorite post on social media is "I'm single so if you see me with someone, mind your business. I'm doing interviews." People are quick to jump all in your kool aid with the flavor being wrong and the sugar missing. Understand that when I want people to know about my life, they will. I mean that's Captain Obvious hence the blog!
If you haven't found your "type", if I may suggest a solution, change your outlook. You may be missing out on what you need which is exactly what you want.
#findyourhappy
With Love,
LR Wilson, Founder
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