Beyond Divorce

Sitting here wondering what exactly happens Beyond Divorce? I mean I've spent over half of my life with the man I thought I would be with "forever". Well first all intent and purpose..."forever" came quicker than planned..lol! I can laugh about it now in my "After the Pain" Betty Wright voice. But baby let me tell you..when I was going through the process it felt like I was preparing for a funeral. In a sense it is just that. Laying old things to rest. This was one of the hardest decisions I've ever had to make in life. No matter what we've been through, I still believed yep we can get through this too. Nope...we couldn't! The reality set in pretty quickly!

To be quite honest, I must admit I had a sliver of hope all the way into the first court hearing. Things would magically fix themselves. I would wake up and this was all a nightmare. Cameras would flood me in the parking lot of the courthouse because clearly I was being Punk'd by Ashton Kutcher. Uhhh...nope none of that shit happened. But what did happen was a WHOLE DAMN MOMENT OF CLARITY during the court hearings. I found out that I'm human and I can no longer bundle those feelings until they burst out the seams of my existence. So that's what happened. I cried...cried...cried a little bit more...then I boss'd up! It was time!

I had to go into beast mode because the Leo was being cornered. We all know when a lioness is cornered...there should be grave concern. One thing I do well is work under pressure and prove others wrong about my ability. Beyond Divorce was in full effect...

I needed to set all feelings, emotions, past love aside. It was straight business now. It had to happen. I was under that age old impression that "people would do for you as you would do for them". Well I'm here to tell you....take care of you and yours! Once your mind is set to that...you will be alright!

You have to remember no matter how long you were with someone, YOU were a person before that happened. YOU still are a person in all your splendor and glory! Beyond Divorce...YOU ARE WONDERFUL! YOU ARE NOT A VICTIM! YOU ARE A SURVIVOR! YOU ARE A BOSS!

#findyourhappy

With Love,

LR WILSON, FOUNDER
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The Best is Yet to Come!

The Best is Yet to Come...is that a cliche or do we truly believe that The Best is Yet to Come? Day in and day out each of us are striving to get to that place of "best". What exactly does it mean? Some feel that the best is in a relationship. Some feel the best is in their occupation. Some even feel that the best is in their family dynamics. Really...what are we striving for?

If you've never thought about this...the time has come. I mean I'm glad to be the one to bring this to you...but errrrr we all need answers to this question. Are we ever truly at our best? As a human race we are continually trying to be bigger, better, for lack of a better word....be our best. When we think of all the work we do day in and day out are we achieving that goal of being the best? Is it even a goal??

I have my hands in multiple genres trying to find my niche and be the best at it so that my family will not have to want for anything. The reality is we will always want more but the need isn't there. There is a difference between wanting and needing. We need nothing yet we want lots of things. I'm working on simplicity in my life. The simple things make me happy. Spending time with my family, friends and ALONE even make me feel like I'm at my best.

I am continually learning how to be not in a romantic relationship...(grammatical suicide)...yet I long for it because that's what I'm use to. I'm a relationship girl ya know! I can roll with the best of the singles out here living my life and shit...but at the end of the day...coming home to a significant other is my thing. Welp...according to all those Facebook "your future holds" quizzes...I'll be engaged and/or married in no time....Lol!

I said all that to say The Best is Yet to Come! Stay focused...Stay patient...Stay true to yourself. Not everyone will support you...and that's ok. When it's your time...it's your time because The Best is Yet to Come!

#findyourhappy

With Love

LR WILSON, FOUNDER
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Worthy of Value

Often times we question our worth based on the actions of others and/or their opinions of us. Although I am fairly confident in many aspects of my life, I often question what is my worth? Is there an actual numerical value that is associated with who I am? All questions I can not really answer yet I'm seeking something to define my worth.

Well what I do know is that it's not in a man. Took me awhile to figure that out I must readily admit! I often feel like there is so much more I could be doing. I want so many things and my patience is somewhat limited when I think of what I want to attain...how to get there...and hell why isn't it hurrying up to get me to where I want to be!!?? I get in this self pity funk!
Not a depression but a funk because yes I'm an overachiever who thrives on chaos that help build me....not bring drama.

I get comments all the time from both men and women who tell me I'm beautiful. I'm smart. I'm a good woman. I have a big heart. All those things are wonderful and true I must say...lol...but it doesn't define my worth. I can be many things in many areas because I'm built like that. I'm truly someone that can adjust and survive the storm no matter what. Which is both a blessing and a curse.

Back to my worth...Your worth...Our worth! How do you ascertain what that truly is? Some people find worth in material things. Some find it in beauty. Some find it in stepping out on faith. Some find it in not doing anything. How do you find it?

2019 got here pretty damn fast! So with that said, time is moving and in order to maximize on what we want in life, we must identify our worth. I'm worthy of all things meant for me in my destiny. Nothing more nothing less will I ask for; however I will ask for an overflow so that anything dripping from the pot will help build someone else.

#findyourhappy

With Love,

LR Wilson, Founder
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The Power of Invisibility

Anytime a superhero has a super power of invisibility, they activate that in order to yessssss become invisible! Many of us wish that we had that power from time to time just to get a break from life. Now that the hustle and bustle of the holidays are done, everyone let's just take a deep breath! Activate your invisibility shield and regroup yourselves.

Family, friends, loved ones all had your undivided attention those past few days, weeks or even months because you wanted to make sure that they were happy. My children ask every year what I want for Christmas. Truth be told, I never want anything material from them. I only want for them to be happy and us all to be together. That makes me happy! Now that they are older and have families of their own, I never really know how they are spending the Christmas holiday or any holiday truth be told. It's my favorite time of the year.....well let's face it outside of my own birthday...boom! Just in case the universe forgot to tell you....it's August 14th!! Whew...glad we cleared that up!

For the past 3 years, I didn't know how the holidays would go because I've never spent one without my kids and my husband. Year one was R.O.U.G.H! Honey you could've poured me in a cup. There was hostility and sadness yet we pushed through faking it until we made it. "We" is set apart for the ex and I. Year two....uhhhh keep letting that cup overflow because again I was a hot mess and more pouring happened. I wanted to not only turn on my invisible shield, but keep it on FOREVER! Babbbbyyyy year three found it's way here....y'all better get y'all lives! Honey I was back in the game and gave absolutely zero fucks! I had my kids, my happiness and theirs which pulled me through from year two! We were cordial and for the most part get along....from as far as I can tell.....now that things are done. A few loose ends here and there need to happen so we are "done done"...but I became visible again!

There will be a time or two, hell or 100, that you will need to activate your invisible shield in order to realign. That's ok! Step away, do you, get some clarity, direction and calmness back into your life. No one can take your shine away so when you reactivate....blind the hell out of them! You were not created to remain invisible! That's a super power needed for specific reasons.....so turn your light back on and #findyourhappy!

When you're invisibility becomes visible, you're a beast to be reckoned with!

#findyourhappy

With Love,

LR WILSON, FOUNDER
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