Exit Stage Right!

If you've ever watched Snagglepuss cartoon (I'm telling my age!); whenever he exited the studio he would say Exit Stage Left! Oh the memories of Saturday morning cartoons as a kid. Well this saying was very famous for quite some time anytime you got ready to leave in a hurry or you were done with whatever it is you were into. Moving right along into the topic of discussion today Exit Stage Right...and what that means.

See whenever I'm done with a discussion matter, I have learned to say what I need to say. Allow the other person to say whatever it is they need to say with back and forth conversing. Whether that's face to face...text...email...messenger or whatever. Now when you go back to beating a dead horse until death itself is dead on the subject matter...I will promptly end my participation in the conversation by making the other person aware that I'm done with the conversation. Sooooo Exit Stage Right...out of my thought process!

It behooves me how you can have a conversation and for some odd reason it circles back to the very same topic it began with...and has been addressed. This is my pet peeve when conversing. If I say I'm done with the conversation and the person I'm speaking to says they're not done. Uhhhh....continue on if you like but just know that I will not be entertaining a continued conversation on that topic. Exit Stage Right!

I have learned that those conversations, if I allow them to continue, drain my energy. Dampens my WHOLE soul. These past few years I have fully embraced my mental stability and protecting my energy. Some people just like to beat death out of death just to have something to say. I'm a firm believer that the past is the past...the present is the now so live in it and the future is to come so prepare for it. I've put in alot of "self work" to get to this place.

People who don't embrace the person you are becoming and continually allow themselves to reference the old you...enjoy staying in the past. It's easy because it's territory they are familiar with. Change is hard for everyone. The person going through the change and for the people who won't allow you to change because it's uncomfortable for them to accept. Exit Stage Right!

I don't give a damn if it takes you the rest of your life to change into who you want to be before you leave this earth...take your time...do it right and embrace every time you transform. Change is fluid. No one changes all at once and each time is different because you acquire knowledge to help your growth. I've been told I change so much people don't know who I am. My response is GREAT! I'm always trying to be better than the old me! The next time you're faced with death beating the hell out of the dead...Exit Stage Right to protect your energy! #findyourhappy

With Love,

LR WILSON, FOUNDER

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And You Thought I Was Insecure?

As I blast Insecure by Jazmine Sullivan and Bryson Tiller

🎶Why you gotta' be so insecure? (So insecure, yeah)
When I did all I could do, but you be wanting more
(But you be wanting more and more and more and more and more and more)
And why you can't get up off my back?
And I can take a lot of shit, but I won't take that (but I won't take that)
No, I won't take that no more🎶

So this week was the week I actually saw my very first plus model picture in print! The 2020 Worth My Weight in Gold - Plus Size Fine calendar was released. Well I got mine is the real story. But that's neither here nor there lol! The point of this part of the story is that I was in it. I've taken many pictures but this one, done by a professional photographer...hairstylist...make up artist...I mean this was the shit! Or so I believed!

Me being me...super excited about it...asked a male counterpart if he wanted to be the first to see it with me. I mean he was sitting right there so why not? He declined..for whatever reason. Well for a reason I didn't grasp at the moment. So I opened the package and flipped the calendar seeing all the lovely plus models whom I had built a sisterhood with. They were phenomenal!! Then I get to my month. I bet you wanna know which one huh? Here's a hint....it's one of my favorite holidays of the two!! So if you know me...you can figure it out. Anyway...back to the story. I saw ME!!! ME IN PRINT!! ME DOING THE DAMN THANG! It was such a surreal moment and I loved every minute of it.

Fast forward about 40 minutes or so after the unveiling. I get a call from the male that I asked about sharing this moment with. Wellllll I'm just here to tell you the excitement that I had was NOT there. Instead it came with ridicule, body shaming and pretty much whatever else you can say to depleat my excitement. Most importantly of all the things that I saw in the picture as beautiful, artistic and phenomenal were seen as negative and a tunnel vision of negativity. Obviously I lashed out and defended my work and the beauty of it. I celebrate ME! No one...absolutely no one saw the same things he saw. And here's why...

An insecure person within themselves will always try to make you feel insecure about your securities. Guess what...that has nothing to do with you. I'm VERY secure with myself and the decisions I make in MY LIFE. Never be afraid to own the things that make you happy. You only have one life so ride that bitch until the wheels fall off. RUN TELL THAT! I've said time and time again that everybody is not cheering for you. They would rather you sit in the back of the bus quietly and speak when spoken to.

Wellllll...my mama should've told him and others that I am NOT THE QUIET TYPE! The old me would've been crying and taking those things that were said to heart. I would've been second guessing the beautiful art that I was able to display of someone else's vision because that's the girl that loved and lived to please others. Keep my being uncomfortable comfortable for them. Yeaaa see she left and will not be back.

Two things I know for sure don't mix...oil and water...a Leo woman and an insecure man. I'm bold and I'm me. I take chances and I take risks. Some that I had to learn hard lessons but most I've loved. And you thought I was insecure?

Please take several seats as one of my good sister friends would say. I promptly added...outside the stadium! At the end of the day...take that picture...love that decision....hell love you! And you thought I was insecure? #findyourhappy

With Love,

LR WILSON, FOUNDER
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Let your No mean No and your Yes mean Yes!

Over the years I have met so many people that rather save face than say what they really mean. In the end, all it did was interrupt their own peace. I use to be that person. I would say yes to things I 1) had no business doing and 2) didn't even want to do; however it felt "safe" and I wasn't letting anyone down. The reality was I was letting myself down by not saying no instead of yes.

Then one day I had an epiphany! I said no and my God...it was life changing. Not only for me but for other people who were the receivers of that word! The reason being is because I'm a person that enjoys helping people. Well I'm here to tell you that in order to help yourself..let your No mean No and your Yes mean Yes for your own sanity. Not everyone will be okay with your decision to take care of yourself. Trust and believe...honey they will live!

We have to be able to recognize when putting ourselves first is the best Yes we will ever say! It's not selfish...it's selfcare. Let your No mean No and your Yes mean Yes!

#findyourhappy

With Love,

LR WILSON, FOUNDER
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Soaring Into Your Destiny

Well let me be the first to tell you that in order to soar with eagles you gotta get away from the crows! I had to learn the hard way that sometimes you have to separate yourself from the things that you want in order to have the things that you need. It's hard as hell to cut things, people and places off in order to be propelled into your destiny. It takes hard work and dedication not even just in the craft you are emerging yourself in but the same goes for staying away from those things, people and places that weigh your wings down!

Most recently I finished/published my very first selfcare journal. I'm already working on a revision because I see so many other things that I could incorporate into the next edition. I wanted the first one to be simple yet impactful. I want the reader to see themselves on every page so that their story can be told in order to help themselves or at least guide them to the areas if selfcare they are in need of. Journals don't need to be workbooks! Which was the hang up on me getting this done. I was under the impression that I needed something big and extravagant with big words and such. Uh no...that's not what God told me to do!

That made me think back to my walk. God is a simple yet amazing God that gives us everything we need. We make things complicated when they don't have to be. Once we put our grimy little hands in the destiny pool without adhering to what we're being told to do..we compromise our own destiny.  Obedience is better than sacrifice. A scripture I will NEVER forget as long as I live. Obviously I'm not free from sin and I don't always do the church thing...but what I do know is when God gives you a whooping because you ain't ackin right...you get in line with what's supposed to be happening.

Soaring into your destiny is not going to be all pretty either! You got to get ugly in order to get to work. The "shine" is off you individually so the glitz and glam will be seen on the perfect work you're putting out. You will lose some people along the way. I know...you thought everyone would be happy for you and they would all support your destiny. Sooooo...yea they won't. I'll just go ahead and say what they won't. Not everybody in your circle is rooting for you. I'm sorry to be the bearer of bad news but it is what it is. You will build an entirely new circle or many circles. Circles that are composed of your supporters. And....yes they will be strangers! Remember you're soaring into your destiny. Just like when a plane has too much weight and you gotta shift the luggage or throw some shit off the plane to survive...that's what it looks like when you are soaring into your destiny! Drop deadweight so you can soar!

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Remember that you too are being propelled into your destiny so you can soar. The question is will you be weighed down and unable to move or will you soar like the eagle you truly are? Only you can answer that!

#findyourhappy

With Love,

LR Wilson, Founder
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There Are No Mistakes!

Often times when things don't go the way we planned, we are quick to say it was a mistake! The definition of mistake is an action or judgment that is misguided or wrong according to Webster. Well I'm here to tell you since no one else has...it was a choice that you made. Yes...I know this is some epic shit coming to the surface!

I, too, am guilty of saying I didn't mean to do that...it was a mistake. Then I realized that I did mean to do it. I made a choice for such action to transpire. Many will argue my point and that's ok because I had to get here too. I didn't just arrive at this valuable information. So let me just break it down a little. For instance, if you drink and drive then you happen to cause an accident. It was NOT A MISTAKE. You chose to drink...you chose to drive which in turn caused the accident. That's about as elementary as I can make this.

Fast forwarding to an almost relationship I could have stumbled into after being separated/divorced. Dodge that bullet with a FULL ARMOUR ON....sorry digressed. Anyway,  now that things didn't work out the way the other person thought it would've, you know without me but with someone else, it was a mistake. Nahhh...it wasn't. It was a choice and you chose to work on what was and not what could've been. Congratulations!

I wasn't mad..bitter or upset. Go do you! You asked and I gave. I would never stop anyone from being happy. Please believe that if you think that your life would be happier without me, by all means....LET ME GO! This is for any relationship, friendship, situationship, etc. Happiness is not in another person...it's within you. We are the keepers of our happiness. Don't ever allow someone else to determine what makes you happy because it will fail every time!

The quote attached to this post hit home for me and it was a nice reminder of exactly what I'm saying. With that said...stop making "mistakes" and allow yourself to make choices that help you grow vs stunt your growth.

#findyourhappy

With Love,

LR Wilson, Founder
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The Gift That Keeps on Giving

Have you ever wondered what your gift is? The one that you were born with that no one else has because it was special just for you? Lots of people have the gift of singing but the special thing about it is no one person will ever sound the same because their gift was not given to anyone else. Lots of people know how to dance, cook, are athletic, photographers etc. The reason why they are good at what they do is because they have a gift that keeps on giving no matter what. There's a saying that "music soothes the savage beast". If you ever watched Beauty and the Beast you know what I'm talking about.

I can sing a little bit, I write and I'm a good listener. Those are some of my gifts. The gift I admire the most is the fact that I'm a giver. That can also come back to bite you too because people will take advantage of that. If I see someone struggling and even if I don't have it, I'll give what I have because I know that I'll be blessed in the end. I have given to people in need only to find out they not only had the money for whatever, but they had extra that they spent on luxuries. At first I was heated. Then I remembered that I'll be blessed and note to self...it won't happen again.

Thinking about your gifts that you were born with can sometimes be overwhelming but it doesn't have to be. Work your gifts within the realm of the power you have. Everything has a time and place. The gift that keeps on giving is the one that you continually use to help others. It may be singing, cooking, writing, artistry etc. Whatever it is..just know that gift was especially assigned to you. Be protective of it and use it wisely. This is the season of giving!

What is your gift that keeps on giving? How are you using it to help others and yourself? Remember that YOU'RE UNIQUE and your gift was handpicked for you at birth!

#findyourhappy

With Love,

LR Wilson, Founder
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Just Reflect

I asked several times for the universe to guide me on this week's blog. Each time the word "nothing" was repeated. Then those words were followed by "just reflect". So this week's blog is about nothing specific yet just reflect. I've been doing some more soul searching and reflecting on my future. Finances, credit worthiness, debt elimination and not reduction. I asked for debt reduction, which I'm being granted often then this epiphany happened...or reflection...I need to ask for debt elimination! My debt is reduced every time I pay off a credit card or whatever I have in terms of credit. Now I need to be done with credit period! If I don't have the money...I'm not getting it! The reality is in the world today we need some form of credit in order to determine our credit worthiness to acquire big purchases. So the challenge is to keep those lines of credit without using them.

Reflecting on my future endeavors is both invigorating yet scary. I'm afraid of failure! I guess I won't really know until I do it, huh? Well since this week's blog is about nothing but just reflecting...what are you reflecting on? How will you do things differently not even starting in the New Year but today? Or how will you enhance what you're already doing to get to the next level? Some things just need to be improved not necessarily "changed" 😉!

With that said...take a look in the mirror both physically and metaphorically to see what you need to see. Just reflect!

#findyourhappy

With Love,

LR Wilson, Founder
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