Who doesn't LOVE a good Happy Hour?? Whether it's food, drinks or a combination of the two . .a good Happy Hour makes all the difference. Prices are SUPER CHEAP and you can pretty much get the stuff for HALF PRICE or less because it's Happy Hour . .right! I'm sure you're thinking back to the last Happy Hour you attended. If you've never attended one . .now you want to because of the WONDERFUL shout out I just gave!!
As yummy and delightful as the above deal may sound . . Happy Hour doesn't last forever! YESSSS . .there comes an end to all good things. The question that I pose to each of you reading this is . . what are you offering as you host Happy Hour? Remember that you're enjoying things at half the value or even less depending on what's on the special. What is your value? What will you be offering SUPER CHEAP? Is it your sanity? Is it your soul? Is it your body? Is it your self-esteem? Is it your entire worth?
I've been there on more than one occasion! I've "hosted" Happy Hour in order to keep the peace or to have the love that I thought I deserved. All the time I was offering a SUPER CHEAP version of me in order to appease the patrons. Some took a piece of my sanity because that was on special at the time. Others had the pleasure of sucking the soul out of me just the way you would suck on a lime after a good tequila shot! Offering up my body was yet another great deal with an added self-esteem two for one deal. Last but definitely not least was the creme de la creme of all the Happy Hour specials . .my entire worth!! YEP . .that happened. I questioned my entire being at one point.
I can only speak for myself although I can pretty much guarantee that anyone reading this post has definitely participated in some form of Happy Hour in their life. It's the part of life called "You Live . .You Learn!" As long as we are on this side of glory, there will always be a point in our lives where we will have the pleasure of shutting down Happy Hour by making that "last call". For those of you who don't know what last call is . .well that's when the waitress/waiter come around to your table to let you know . .Happy Hour is almost over and this is the "last call". Meaning . .uh yea . .things go back to regular price!
YESSS REGULAR PRICE! For me that meant that I no longer would be discounting my sanity, my soul, my body, my self-esteem and most importantly my self-worth. The price is surmountable; therefore if you have to ask how much it would cost to have any part of me from now on . .you can't afford me. When I tell people now that they can't afford me . .their simple minds think monetarily because that's what they are use to doing. Offering things of "value" because it's associated with a materialistic mentality. I mean I can buy my own stuff if I want something. When I say you can't afford me . .I'm telling you that you'll never have the opportunity to "purchase" me because I'm no longer on Happy Hour. All specials are null and void. YESSS Happy Hour has ended!!
CHANNELING TEQUILA PRESENTS: #findyourhappy MIND ~ BODY ~ SOUL Workshop on June 24, 2018 at 1p.m. There is limited space available. Once you register, the location is revealed. I envision this event being something that will help you understand and KNOW your worth. It's going to be a WONDERFUL time of connection MIND ~BODY ~ SOUL! Registration opens TODAY at 8am!!! In order to register go to the Channeling Tequila Facebook Page and click on the event link. The first stop is the TWIN CITIES and more cities will follow!
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With Love
LR Wilson, Founder
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Friday, March 16, 2018
Friday, March 9, 2018
Good Girl Gone M.A.D.
YESSSS . . YESSSS. .Good Girl Gone M.A.D.!! Ri-Ri said is best in her song "Good Girl Gone Bad" . .but see I'm on a whole 'nother level . .I'm going M.A.D. You're wondering what M.A.D. is huh? Yep . . Motivated And Determined! I refuse to be set back over life's challenges because you know what . .IT'S LIFE and life happens. You have to be able to have your moment . .brush it off and get M.A.D. (Motivated And Determined) in order to live your best life!!
The last two years have been very trying for me because I literally checked out of living life other than doing what was necessary. Then a fire was lit inside of me to do what I love to do . . HELP PEOPLE! Writing this blog was the best therapy ever for me!! I don't care if I have one or one hundred readers. . .it's the message of HOPE, PERSEVERANCE, SELF LOVE and yes Motivated And Determined that I want readers to apply and receive.
We are all placed on this earth for a limited amount of time. We should all be living our BEST LIVES in that time. Yes there will be heartaches, setbacks and hurdles to overcome. There was never a promise that there wouldn't be. We were promised however that JOY COMES IN THE MORNING! When we make it to the morning . .we already know that we have overcome!! I am a Good Girl Gone M.A.D. because I was forced into my destiny of doing what I love to do . .HELP PEOPLE . .MOTIVATE PEOPLE . .ENCOURAGE PEOPLE . .SUPPORT PEOPLE!
Because I am a Good Girl Gone M.A.D. I have a few irons on the fire! I have this weekly blog . .which I LOVE . .a #findyourhappy event that will be held June 24th here in MN . .yesss you are all invited!! LIKE my FB page and you will get all the details on that!! It is going to be AMAZING!! Also I have my travel business that I have embarked on and embraced wholeheartedly . .all this in addition to my full time job, part time job and raising a family. YES you TOO can have it all!! I work hard so I can play harder!!
Get M.A.D. right now and follow your dreams, passion and aspirations! Live your BEST LIFE To the FULLEST!! Good Girl Gone M.A.D.
#findyourhappy
With Love
LR Wilson, Founder
FB: Channeling Tequila FB Page
IG: @channelingtequila
The last two years have been very trying for me because I literally checked out of living life other than doing what was necessary. Then a fire was lit inside of me to do what I love to do . . HELP PEOPLE! Writing this blog was the best therapy ever for me!! I don't care if I have one or one hundred readers. . .it's the message of HOPE, PERSEVERANCE, SELF LOVE and yes Motivated And Determined that I want readers to apply and receive.
We are all placed on this earth for a limited amount of time. We should all be living our BEST LIVES in that time. Yes there will be heartaches, setbacks and hurdles to overcome. There was never a promise that there wouldn't be. We were promised however that JOY COMES IN THE MORNING! When we make it to the morning . .we already know that we have overcome!! I am a Good Girl Gone M.A.D. because I was forced into my destiny of doing what I love to do . .HELP PEOPLE . .MOTIVATE PEOPLE . .ENCOURAGE PEOPLE . .SUPPORT PEOPLE!
Because I am a Good Girl Gone M.A.D. I have a few irons on the fire! I have this weekly blog . .which I LOVE . .a #findyourhappy event that will be held June 24th here in MN . .yesss you are all invited!! LIKE my FB page and you will get all the details on that!! It is going to be AMAZING!! Also I have my travel business that I have embarked on and embraced wholeheartedly . .all this in addition to my full time job, part time job and raising a family. YES you TOO can have it all!! I work hard so I can play harder!!
Get M.A.D. right now and follow your dreams, passion and aspirations! Live your BEST LIFE To the FULLEST!! Good Girl Gone M.A.D.
#findyourhappy
With Love
LR Wilson, Founder
FB: Channeling Tequila FB Page
IG: @channelingtequila
Friday, March 2, 2018
KNOWLEDGE IS POWER!!
I've been asked how do I get my topics? How do I know what to write about once I get them? Do I ever take topic requests? Welllllll . .since you asked! The topics just come to me most times from divine intervention. Once those topics hit my spirit, a few days later the message comes to me for that topic in many forms. I'm able to then relate it to my life experiences which in turn provides the conversation for the blog. I do take topic requests and if my spirit is in tune with the topic, I will then write about it. Let me express that I HAVE TO be in tune with it; otherwise I write the topic down and set it aside until it's time . .if at all . .to be shared with everyone.
Without further ado . .the topic for today's blog is KNOWLEDGE IS POWER! Someone asked if I knew then what I know now I would . . .
I mean that's a pretty broad statement/question to say the least because Lord knows I don't know where I would begin with changing things in my life if I knew then what I know now. I, for one, would have definitely went to school when I was supposed to and waited to have kids. You know that whole "traditional" way of doing things; however I've never really been big on doing things the way society feels I should anyway. With that said, if I knew then what I know now I would have definitely not have gotten married at 16 to husband number one. I mean the kid was already here so I put the cart before the horse anyway on that one. I would not have moved to California with no immediate family only to end up back in Mississippi as a teenage single mom at the end of all those shenanigans. KNOWLEDGE IS POWER!
The reason why I was so hard on my daughter . . .the product of that whatchamacallit . . .was because I knew what I was doing at her age and I was DETERMINED to end the teen pregnancy cycle in my family. I did a lot of things wrong in relation to raising her in my eyes; however I also did a lot of things right because although she pretty much hated me her entire pre-teen and teen life . .it all worked out in the end because we are super close now that she is an adult. She now has the responsibility of raising her daughter and I thank God for that retaliation . .LOL! KNOWLEDGE IS POWER!
As far as school, I vowed to never go back once I graduated high school because I was completely over it! Here I am today sitting with a graduate degree and actually teaching college. I mean who would have thunk that in a trillion years? You can ask any of my teachers if they saw this coming and my high school counselor surely didn't. Education was NOT my thing. Now I am the poster child for getting your education because I realized no matter what people try to take away from you, they will never be able to strip you of your knowledge! KNOWLEDGE IS POWER!
Now marriage number two happened . .by that time I had already put two more carts before the horse. After many years of back and forth . .one dysfunction after another . .we made it through each time by the skin of our teeth and because we BOTH were invested enough to give it another shot after shot. Yea so that didn't work out in the end either. The one thing I must add is that I finally got it right . .sorts . .the last horse came after the cart this time . .but still it wasn't enough to keep things afloat. I can only take responsibility for my role in the demise of that one. If I knew then what I know now I would have definitely kept myself in check and let the cards fall where they may in regard to whatever was going on outside of my control. I've always had a hard head so that was nothing new in regard to me doing what I want to do. It's the end result that made the difference in my life. KNOWLEDGE IS POWER!
Through all the ups and downs in my life, I can honestly say that it took ALL OF THOSE THINGS to happen in order for me to be the person that I am today. All of those events played a critical part in how I see things now and what I want out of life. I am more confident in myself internally and I am living my best life at 43 years old. What the future holds, I do not know; but as for now I am living in the moment! I know that everything in the past is just that . .the past . .and it can not be changed; therefore I focus on the future and not repeating the past. You live . .you learn . .you move on. KNOWLEDGE IS POWER!
#findyourhappy
With Love
LR Wilson, Founder
IG: @channelingtequila
FB: Channeling Tequila
Email: channelingtequila@gmail.com
Without further ado . .the topic for today's blog is KNOWLEDGE IS POWER! Someone asked if I knew then what I know now I would . . .
I mean that's a pretty broad statement/question to say the least because Lord knows I don't know where I would begin with changing things in my life if I knew then what I know now. I, for one, would have definitely went to school when I was supposed to and waited to have kids. You know that whole "traditional" way of doing things; however I've never really been big on doing things the way society feels I should anyway. With that said, if I knew then what I know now I would have definitely not have gotten married at 16 to husband number one. I mean the kid was already here so I put the cart before the horse anyway on that one. I would not have moved to California with no immediate family only to end up back in Mississippi as a teenage single mom at the end of all those shenanigans. KNOWLEDGE IS POWER!
The reason why I was so hard on my daughter . . .the product of that whatchamacallit . . .was because I knew what I was doing at her age and I was DETERMINED to end the teen pregnancy cycle in my family. I did a lot of things wrong in relation to raising her in my eyes; however I also did a lot of things right because although she pretty much hated me her entire pre-teen and teen life . .it all worked out in the end because we are super close now that she is an adult. She now has the responsibility of raising her daughter and I thank God for that retaliation . .LOL! KNOWLEDGE IS POWER!
As far as school, I vowed to never go back once I graduated high school because I was completely over it! Here I am today sitting with a graduate degree and actually teaching college. I mean who would have thunk that in a trillion years? You can ask any of my teachers if they saw this coming and my high school counselor surely didn't. Education was NOT my thing. Now I am the poster child for getting your education because I realized no matter what people try to take away from you, they will never be able to strip you of your knowledge! KNOWLEDGE IS POWER!
Now marriage number two happened . .by that time I had already put two more carts before the horse. After many years of back and forth . .one dysfunction after another . .we made it through each time by the skin of our teeth and because we BOTH were invested enough to give it another shot after shot. Yea so that didn't work out in the end either. The one thing I must add is that I finally got it right . .sorts . .the last horse came after the cart this time . .but still it wasn't enough to keep things afloat. I can only take responsibility for my role in the demise of that one. If I knew then what I know now I would have definitely kept myself in check and let the cards fall where they may in regard to whatever was going on outside of my control. I've always had a hard head so that was nothing new in regard to me doing what I want to do. It's the end result that made the difference in my life. KNOWLEDGE IS POWER!
Through all the ups and downs in my life, I can honestly say that it took ALL OF THOSE THINGS to happen in order for me to be the person that I am today. All of those events played a critical part in how I see things now and what I want out of life. I am more confident in myself internally and I am living my best life at 43 years old. What the future holds, I do not know; but as for now I am living in the moment! I know that everything in the past is just that . .the past . .and it can not be changed; therefore I focus on the future and not repeating the past. You live . .you learn . .you move on. KNOWLEDGE IS POWER!
#findyourhappy
With Love
LR Wilson, Founder
IG: @channelingtequila
FB: Channeling Tequila
Email: channelingtequila@gmail.com
Friday, February 23, 2018
Secure the Bag!
Secure the Bag!! This is definitely something I am very familiar with! What does it mean to Secure the Bag you ask??? According to urbandictionary.com "The bag being anything you want/desire. You must obtain it or accomplish your goal. Secure the bag;" SO YES . . SECURE THE BAG!! Anyone that is vaguely familiar with how I operate will know that any time I have a set goal in place, I give 110% to that mission of accomplishment. I don't play games about my coins . . point blank period! I know that I have obligations and people depending on me so nothing will sway me from my mission of "Secure the Bag"!
I remember going through depression yet and still every single day I got up an functioned "normally" in order to Secure the Bag aka my paycheck! Although I didn't feel like "adulting" at the end of the day I also did not want to be jobless, homeless and hopeless. Of course I had support systems in place that never ever waiver, aka my mom and kids, but that was not/is not their responsibility to make sure I'm doing what I need to do in order to maintain life as an adult. My mother would move mountains with her bare hands for her children and not give it a second thought. AGAIN . .that is NOT her responsibility although it's good to know that she's there if needed.
I have always been really good with people so instinctively I have always gone into jobs or taken on tasks that require me to work with people in a helping aspect. My many, many side jobs included or includes selling jewelry, selling beauty products, selling health wellness, teaching as a adjunct professor, blogger, mentoring, motivational speaker and most recently taking on the job as an independent travel agent . .again "Secure the Bag". If you're looking to travel . .I got you! http://lrwilsontravel.inteletravel.com . .PLUG ACCOMPLISHED!
One would think with all these responsibilities I would be tired . .the reality however is that I get tired when I'm not engaging in something that is fulfilling. I LOVE HELPING PEOPLE! I adore that helping others #findyourhappy makes me happy! YES, I will make some money but the key thing for me is fulfillment! So when I'm talking about "Secure the Bag" it's much deeper than money . . it's a lifestyle of fulfillment for me and helping others to be fulfilled. I don't engage in business practices that I am not passionate about or I will not use myself. That's just being hypocritical to be quiet honest. AND . .if I find out later down the line that something is "just not right" . .I will drop that venture and move right along! I like my name associated with character not reputation because that's what really matters and will stand against everything else. "Secure the Bag"!
You have to ask yourself . .what is it in my bag that I am trying to secure? Is it attainable? Is my bag too heavy? Is my bag full of b.s.? I mean that's the adult thing to do if you are ever going to accomplish anything. If ever you are going to be honest with anyone . .it has to at least be yourself. Be realistic about what's in your bag. Let's face it . . some people will not be on board with you securing your bag because that means they are either put on the backburner or simply not on the list and that's ok! Hell it is YOUR BAG that YOU are securing so whatever is in it . .YOU OWN IT! Always believe in yourself and know that YOUR HAPPINESS is really what matters at the end of the day. "When mama happy . .everybody happy!" "Secure the Bag"!
#findyourhappy
With Love
LR Wilson, Founder
IG: @channelingtequila
FB: Channeling Tequila page
Email: channelingtequila@gmail.com
I remember going through depression yet and still every single day I got up an functioned "normally" in order to Secure the Bag aka my paycheck! Although I didn't feel like "adulting" at the end of the day I also did not want to be jobless, homeless and hopeless. Of course I had support systems in place that never ever waiver, aka my mom and kids, but that was not/is not their responsibility to make sure I'm doing what I need to do in order to maintain life as an adult. My mother would move mountains with her bare hands for her children and not give it a second thought. AGAIN . .that is NOT her responsibility although it's good to know that she's there if needed.
I have always been really good with people so instinctively I have always gone into jobs or taken on tasks that require me to work with people in a helping aspect. My many, many side jobs included or includes selling jewelry, selling beauty products, selling health wellness, teaching as a adjunct professor, blogger, mentoring, motivational speaker and most recently taking on the job as an independent travel agent . .again "Secure the Bag". If you're looking to travel . .I got you! http://lrwilsontravel.inteletravel.com . .PLUG ACCOMPLISHED!
One would think with all these responsibilities I would be tired . .the reality however is that I get tired when I'm not engaging in something that is fulfilling. I LOVE HELPING PEOPLE! I adore that helping others #findyourhappy makes me happy! YES, I will make some money but the key thing for me is fulfillment! So when I'm talking about "Secure the Bag" it's much deeper than money . . it's a lifestyle of fulfillment for me and helping others to be fulfilled. I don't engage in business practices that I am not passionate about or I will not use myself. That's just being hypocritical to be quiet honest. AND . .if I find out later down the line that something is "just not right" . .I will drop that venture and move right along! I like my name associated with character not reputation because that's what really matters and will stand against everything else. "Secure the Bag"!
You have to ask yourself . .what is it in my bag that I am trying to secure? Is it attainable? Is my bag too heavy? Is my bag full of b.s.? I mean that's the adult thing to do if you are ever going to accomplish anything. If ever you are going to be honest with anyone . .it has to at least be yourself. Be realistic about what's in your bag. Let's face it . . some people will not be on board with you securing your bag because that means they are either put on the backburner or simply not on the list and that's ok! Hell it is YOUR BAG that YOU are securing so whatever is in it . .YOU OWN IT! Always believe in yourself and know that YOUR HAPPINESS is really what matters at the end of the day. "When mama happy . .everybody happy!" "Secure the Bag"!
#findyourhappy
With Love
LR Wilson, Founder
IG: @channelingtequila
FB: Channeling Tequila page
Email: channelingtequila@gmail.com
Friday, February 16, 2018
To Forgive Or Not To Forgive . . .That Is The Question!
Let me start off by saying forgiveness is a VERY hard thing to do in any situation. It takes practice, practice, practice if you truly want it to happen. I say that because just like anything you want to master, you have to practice it over and over again until it's near perfection. To Forgive or Not To Forgive. . .That Is The Question! Well I'm here to answer that question for you today! Yes, emphatically YES I scream to you! Forgiveness is not for the other person, but for YOU!
Think back to a time when something was done to you by a person . .or multiple times . .let's just be honest . .you were sitting pissed off and they were living their lives like nothing ever happened! I'll give you a few moments to reflect on that . . . .ok move on now! YES you were brewing and they were partying because 1) they may not have felt they did anything wrong; 2) they came to terms with whatever it was; 3) they moved on. You, however, are still in a funk. . .unable to think straight or live your life because you have not forgiven the situation. To Forgive or Not To Forgive. . .That Is The Question!
In my life I have been both the perpetrator and the victim in forgiving. I've done things to people and vice versa; however the real test was when I was the one in the forgiving position. Obviously it's easier for the person who committed the act to move on much quicker than those they have hurt. In order to forgive you have to be willing to move on. When I say move on, I'm not talking about acting like the sh*t never happened; because it did happen! Hold . .I need to digress for a moment! I absolutely can NOT stand when people do things, forgiveness happens and then they act like it never happened. NO . . it still happened . .the choice was made to forgive and move on . .not to forget it ever existed! Whew . .ok . .back to the blog!
Some say if you have not forgotten you have not forgiven. I, for one, do not believe that. You can still remember things that happened so that you learn lessons from it. You don't; however have to continue to bring those things up. . . which then in my mind tells me that you have not forgiven. Not vice versa. It's like a sore . . .if you continually pull the scab off of it as it's getting well . . .it will not get well. You have to leave it alone so that it heals and blends back into the skin. Don't allow anyone to stunt your growth in forgiving others. It's YOUR sanity . .not theirs. You are able to live your life without regret when you FORGIVE! Trust me . . I have been through this over and over again!
To Forgive Or Not To Forgive . . .That Is The Question! What will you forgive today so that you have freedom from guilt, shame or regret? Just know that whatever it is . .IT'S FOR YOU . .NOT THEM! To Forgive Or Not To Forgive . . .That Is The Question!
#findyourhappy
With Love
LR Wilson, Founder
IG: @channelingtequila
FB: Channeling Tequila page
Email: channelingtequila@gmail.com
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Think back to a time when something was done to you by a person . .or multiple times . .let's just be honest . .you were sitting pissed off and they were living their lives like nothing ever happened! I'll give you a few moments to reflect on that . . . .ok move on now! YES you were brewing and they were partying because 1) they may not have felt they did anything wrong; 2) they came to terms with whatever it was; 3) they moved on. You, however, are still in a funk. . .unable to think straight or live your life because you have not forgiven the situation. To Forgive or Not To Forgive. . .That Is The Question!
In my life I have been both the perpetrator and the victim in forgiving. I've done things to people and vice versa; however the real test was when I was the one in the forgiving position. Obviously it's easier for the person who committed the act to move on much quicker than those they have hurt. In order to forgive you have to be willing to move on. When I say move on, I'm not talking about acting like the sh*t never happened; because it did happen! Hold . .I need to digress for a moment! I absolutely can NOT stand when people do things, forgiveness happens and then they act like it never happened. NO . . it still happened . .the choice was made to forgive and move on . .not to forget it ever existed! Whew . .ok . .back to the blog!
Some say if you have not forgotten you have not forgiven. I, for one, do not believe that. You can still remember things that happened so that you learn lessons from it. You don't; however have to continue to bring those things up. . . which then in my mind tells me that you have not forgiven. Not vice versa. It's like a sore . . .if you continually pull the scab off of it as it's getting well . . .it will not get well. You have to leave it alone so that it heals and blends back into the skin. Don't allow anyone to stunt your growth in forgiving others. It's YOUR sanity . .not theirs. You are able to live your life without regret when you FORGIVE! Trust me . . I have been through this over and over again!
To Forgive Or Not To Forgive . . .That Is The Question! What will you forgive today so that you have freedom from guilt, shame or regret? Just know that whatever it is . .IT'S FOR YOU . .NOT THEM! To Forgive Or Not To Forgive . . .That Is The Question!
#findyourhappy
With Love
LR Wilson, Founder
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Friday, February 9, 2018
If It Does Not Fit . . You Must Quit!
Anyone walking this earth over the age of 25 years old should be fully aware of the OJ Simpson trial. Johnny Cochran's famous line from the defense's closing argument was "If it does not fit . .you must acquit" when he referred to the bloody gloves that were found at the murder scene. Not only did he say that, he also had OJ to put the gloves on . .which didn't fit! Whether you were for or against the not guilty verdict, the bottom line is the prosecution could not prove beyond a reasonable doubt that he OJ did it; therefore he was acquitted.
As I was meditating over what topic to do this week, those famous words came to me . .obviously in a different form as I thought about things in my life, past, present and future . . "If It Does Not Fit . . You Must Quit!" I have never identified myself as a quitter and I most often go at things full force when I do them. Then I had to realize that some things are just not meant to fit in my life and with that said I will have to quit! When I say "things" I'm speaking in general terms because it encompasses relationships, situations, people, goals, etc. If we do a REAL reality check in order to #findyourhappy, you will indeed see that many things do NOT fit . .so Quit!
Quit making loose excuses for things you want to hold on to that do not uplift you, promote you or intrigue you in a way that elevates you to the next level! As a female, a mother, and a Leo quite frankly, it is my natural instinct to protect, to nurture, to support, to be a caretaker but at the end of the day I have to ask myself "self are you getting back any of those things in return?" If the answer is an emphatic NO . . then "If It Does Not Fit . . You Must Quit!" Throw in the towel . .take that L . .move things right along to #findyourhappy. I have learned through therapy that MY relationship with people is MY relationship. I can no longer vouch for others and accept the responsibility of maintaining their relationships. IT'S NOT MINE TO DO!! It was extremely hard for me to grasp that concept but FINALLY it happened one day. I have to literally speak aloud to myself "this is not your relationship" in order to stay on task. It's innate!! I need to fix things and make sure everything and everyone is ok, otherwise it messes up my psyche . .I mean it use to! "If It Does Not Fit . .You Must Quit!" I had to become selfish about my own mental health in order to get to this place. I had to be the one to let go of everyone else's drama in order to get centered.
Sometimes it's for our own mental health that we Take That L in order to survive.What are you quitting today? Is it a relationship? Is it a job? Is it depression? Is it a goal? Is it a bad habit? Whatever it is . . "If It Does Not Fit . . You Must Quit!"
#findyourhappy
With Love
LR Wilson, Founder
IG: @channelingtequila
FB: Channeling Tequila
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As I was meditating over what topic to do this week, those famous words came to me . .obviously in a different form as I thought about things in my life, past, present and future . . "If It Does Not Fit . . You Must Quit!" I have never identified myself as a quitter and I most often go at things full force when I do them. Then I had to realize that some things are just not meant to fit in my life and with that said I will have to quit! When I say "things" I'm speaking in general terms because it encompasses relationships, situations, people, goals, etc. If we do a REAL reality check in order to #findyourhappy, you will indeed see that many things do NOT fit . .so Quit!
Quit making loose excuses for things you want to hold on to that do not uplift you, promote you or intrigue you in a way that elevates you to the next level! As a female, a mother, and a Leo quite frankly, it is my natural instinct to protect, to nurture, to support, to be a caretaker but at the end of the day I have to ask myself "self are you getting back any of those things in return?" If the answer is an emphatic NO . . then "If It Does Not Fit . . You Must Quit!" Throw in the towel . .take that L . .move things right along to #findyourhappy. I have learned through therapy that MY relationship with people is MY relationship. I can no longer vouch for others and accept the responsibility of maintaining their relationships. IT'S NOT MINE TO DO!! It was extremely hard for me to grasp that concept but FINALLY it happened one day. I have to literally speak aloud to myself "this is not your relationship" in order to stay on task. It's innate!! I need to fix things and make sure everything and everyone is ok, otherwise it messes up my psyche . .I mean it use to! "If It Does Not Fit . .You Must Quit!" I had to become selfish about my own mental health in order to get to this place. I had to be the one to let go of everyone else's drama in order to get centered.
Sometimes it's for our own mental health that we Take That L in order to survive.What are you quitting today? Is it a relationship? Is it a job? Is it depression? Is it a goal? Is it a bad habit? Whatever it is . . "If It Does Not Fit . . You Must Quit!"
#findyourhappy
With Love
LR Wilson, Founder
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Friday, February 2, 2018
Gaining A Loss
"Gaining A Loss" what an oxymoron! Oxy what? Oxy who? (in my Jigga voice)! Yea so an oxymoron in laymen's terms is a contradictory statement. Now the real question is how are we Gaining A Loss? Loss happens in everyday life and the range is quite wide. Loss of a loved one, loss of a relationship, loss of a job, loss of self . . pretty much anything you endure in an everyday situation can be preceded with the word loss where needed. In life we often focus on those things that were loss and not on what we have gained from it! The very first time I experienced loss was when my maternal grandmother, Rosie passed away. I could not define what I was feeling and I didn't want to acknowledge that she would no longer be there for me. I lived with my grandmother until I was about four years old and then I, along with my sisters, visited her every summer so it was a common thread in my life for her to be there. Although she lived in Arkansas and we lived in Mississippi, it was just as if there was no distance between us. I ADORED my grandmother. Now let me tell you a little about her! She never worked a day in her life and was always taken care of by her husband or boyfriend once her husband passed away. We would fight about me wearing a slip under my dress because all respectable young ladies wore slips. (insert eyeroll) Yep . .I was a rebel then too . .LOL! She made sure we were leaving the house in tip top shape . .even going to the Piggly Wiggly!! For you Northerners/Midwesterners, the Piggly Wiggly is the Cub Foods of the South. I was living in California when she passed away and you could have scooped me up with a spoon I was so devastated. That was the most tragic loss of my life. What I gained from that loss were the memories that we shared through the years. I could actually remember my childhood living with her, our summers we spent with her and the many times over and over again she would hug and kiss us. I also remember the whippings with the switch that we had to go and get ourselves too, lol . .but hey what's most importantly is that my Gaining A Loss moments were the best ones of all . . the loving memories, her smell, her voice, her smile and her laugh.
Loss of a relationship was another Gaining A Loss moment in my life. Lord I tell you . .I thought I was surely going to die and here I am living and sh*t! Remember when I talked about the dreadful D word in last week's post . .depression . . for those of you who have to now go back and catch up that's what it is! That hit me like a ten ton truck! I was going through life in a robotic state . . no lie! Just when I thought all life was lost . . on a man . . and I realized it was NOT . . HOLD ON Y'ALL . .here I come Gaining A Loss! After that experience and jumping over the hurdles that were placed in front of me because I was not prepared financially, emotionally or physically for that to happen in my life, it woke me up BIG TIME!! My Gaining A Loss moment was that I needed to get my finances in order, emotionally I had to center myself back to MY HAPPY and physically I needed to be strong enough to take on everyday challenges. These are things I didn't think twice about because I was complacent.
Gaining A Loss moments help us to recognize WHO WE ARE and WHAT WE HAVE TO OFFER to not only ourselves but to the world in general. There are a lot of people who depend on us whether we recognize it or not. Sometimes we don't even know that people are depending on us because they are not directly connected to us personally. For example, when I am walking through the skyways at my job, just about every 10 to 15 steps someone is speaking to me or stopping me to say hi, give a hug, waving etc. Many of them I have NO CLUE who they are; however I impacted their lives in some positive way otherwise they would be avoiding me. Anyone who has accompanied me to coffee or lunch or whatever can attest to the many times we are stopped before we get to our destination. I'm not saying this to brag or boast. I'm saying it because we don't know what people are going through on a day to day basis and when we are having a Gaining A Loss moment in our lives, we shine through for others.
Don't allow a loss to be a bad thing in your life. Every thing happens for a reason and every reason will be defined. Our destiny is already written I firmly believe. Everything we go through is already known. No man or woman can tell us what it is or when it will be because they are not in control. Focus on having a Gaining A Loss moment when things don't go as planned. What have you gained from that loss? Was it experience? Was it a skill? Was it sanity? Was it peace? Was it self love? Was it redirection? What ever it was . . FIND IT! Our plan is not our own anyway. WE are merely vessels on this earth and what we put out into the universe will be what we get back in this temporary life. Always remember that YOU ARE STRONG, YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL, YOU ARE HANDSOME, YOU ARE SPECIAL, YOU ARE EQUIPPED, YOU ARE LOVED, YOU ARE GAINING A LOSS!
#findyourhappy
With Love
LR Wilson, Founder
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Loss of a relationship was another Gaining A Loss moment in my life. Lord I tell you . .I thought I was surely going to die and here I am living and sh*t! Remember when I talked about the dreadful D word in last week's post . .depression . . for those of you who have to now go back and catch up that's what it is! That hit me like a ten ton truck! I was going through life in a robotic state . . no lie! Just when I thought all life was lost . . on a man . . and I realized it was NOT . . HOLD ON Y'ALL . .here I come Gaining A Loss! After that experience and jumping over the hurdles that were placed in front of me because I was not prepared financially, emotionally or physically for that to happen in my life, it woke me up BIG TIME!! My Gaining A Loss moment was that I needed to get my finances in order, emotionally I had to center myself back to MY HAPPY and physically I needed to be strong enough to take on everyday challenges. These are things I didn't think twice about because I was complacent.
Gaining A Loss moments help us to recognize WHO WE ARE and WHAT WE HAVE TO OFFER to not only ourselves but to the world in general. There are a lot of people who depend on us whether we recognize it or not. Sometimes we don't even know that people are depending on us because they are not directly connected to us personally. For example, when I am walking through the skyways at my job, just about every 10 to 15 steps someone is speaking to me or stopping me to say hi, give a hug, waving etc. Many of them I have NO CLUE who they are; however I impacted their lives in some positive way otherwise they would be avoiding me. Anyone who has accompanied me to coffee or lunch or whatever can attest to the many times we are stopped before we get to our destination. I'm not saying this to brag or boast. I'm saying it because we don't know what people are going through on a day to day basis and when we are having a Gaining A Loss moment in our lives, we shine through for others.
Don't allow a loss to be a bad thing in your life. Every thing happens for a reason and every reason will be defined. Our destiny is already written I firmly believe. Everything we go through is already known. No man or woman can tell us what it is or when it will be because they are not in control. Focus on having a Gaining A Loss moment when things don't go as planned. What have you gained from that loss? Was it experience? Was it a skill? Was it sanity? Was it peace? Was it self love? Was it redirection? What ever it was . . FIND IT! Our plan is not our own anyway. WE are merely vessels on this earth and what we put out into the universe will be what we get back in this temporary life. Always remember that YOU ARE STRONG, YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL, YOU ARE HANDSOME, YOU ARE SPECIAL, YOU ARE EQUIPPED, YOU ARE LOVED, YOU ARE GAINING A LOSS!
#findyourhappy
With Love
LR Wilson, Founder
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