A Rose is Never JUST A Rose

If you've ever received a single rose or a dozen of roses not one of them looks identical. The process that a Rose goes through in order to get to the sheer beauty that we've come to marvel had to go through some things to get there. A rose is a very beautiful flower that can come in many different colors. Hell they even have levels of classification from upper to lower depending on their beauty and growth. Then those thorns! If you've ever been stuck by the thorn of a rose you understand how much pain that beautiful entity brought into your life. You forget instantaneously how much that hurt once you gaze at the beauty of each petal of the rose.

I had the wonderful pleasure of speaking with the author of the book "The Concrete Rose Experience: A Journey of Transformation" earlier today and when I tell y'all I was NOT ready. This book was real, raw, disturbing yet invigorating and empowering! The courage that went into telling her truth and owning her destiny as well as her mistakes is phenomenal to say the least. We connected because the 2019 Empowerment Event "Channeling Tequila Presents: Let Your Mind Speak: The Inner Woman Dialogue" resonated with her. Please please please check it out:

The Concrete Rose Experience: A Journey of Transformation https://www.amazon.com/dp/1791963587/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_i_r6VADbPXC21E7

Y'all know how I digress...back to the rose! We are all roses with our share of thorns. We've endured pain as well as given pain to others. Some intentional and some unintentional, yet pain ensued. Roses have a unique smell and every petal is designed with love from mother nature. Not one rose is the same no matter how many you put together. This freak of nature as some would say is definitely reminder that each of us are unique in our own way. We have thorns and growing pains. We must go through the process in order to get to our beauty.

We are beautifully unique...arriving in different colors and most importantly A Rose is never JUST a Rose!

#findyourhappy

With Love,

LR Wilson, Founder
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Stay Ready!

So let me run this by y'all. Have you ever had the feeling that this has to be it and only to find out...ummm this is NOT IT!? Many things go on from day to day in my life as well as yours I'm sure; however some days are way more questionable than others. When I say questionable I'm referring to when I'm asking myself questions about decisions I am making or not making for that matter.

Most recently I had my 45th birthday!! Yesss it was a good one, yet I find myself still compromising or thinking that I'm compromising when it comes to pursuing a relationship. This is just not a romantic relationship either....since clearly that has gone nowhere but even in platonic relationships. I had a conversation with one of my friends and I told him I think I'm ready for a partner. This of course made him ask all these other questions....you know how ya'll men do instead of just getting to the main question! Basically he wanted to know what I'm looking for. I explained to him that I'm looking for "A monogamous relationship where we both help each other build...travel and love life. If marriage happens cool if not cool. I just want reciprocity. I give wayyyy too much because that's who I am. The return is not so good. Everybody I meet in a relationship. I'm not good in the side chick role." I want what I want and sometimes my wants overshadow my needs. All that healthy response from me and he says "well said". Now what in all the hell does that mean?

It means that he ain't ready sis! But he couldn't just say that. Although we're not an item at the same time we could be. Again...that's me wanting what I want and not necessarily what I need. The running joke is me waiting on someone to break into my home to sweep me off my feet because I'm not out looking. I have a wedding coming up in a few months and once again I will be at the table alone...potentially...with couples. Getting the side eye. I mean I appreciate the invites and the social time, but it does become a little "Groundhog Dayish"! So ummm yea I'll keep you all posted on that whole thing.

As far as friendships, I adore, cherish and appreciate the ones that are real. Let me clarify what I mean. There are some "friendships" that are "associated" and there are some that are "real". Those real ones stand the test of time through rough patches and all. The ones where you fight and then you pick up right where you left off after the fight lol! I can laugh about it because I'm that person. I will let you have your moment just like I need mine and then start over right where we left off. Those kind I love!

Wellllll peeps...I said all this to say when you stay ready you don't have to get ready! Everything is not always what we want it to be and relationships will come and go. The ones that matter will always matter and will always be there. I'm ready for what's to come and I'm humble enough to allow things to manifest where they are. What's for me is for me and I'll just sit right here waiting.

#findyourhappy

With Love,

LR Wilson, Founder
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FAKE NEVER LIVED HERE!

I read a post earlier this week in a group entitled "Things You Can Do For Your Inner Child." All those words on the post were phenomenal but the words that have engulfed my spirit this entire week are "radical honesty". When I tell y'all this hit home for me...it hit home for me. Those words swirling in my subconscious required me to look into myself once again. Radical Honesty!!

Radical Honesty is just what it sounds like. It's straight with no chaser. Not even a miniscule lie will evolve because when you're radical...things just happen differently for you. Although most times I take other people's feelings into consideration, it doesn't always protect my own feelings. Before I could show radical honesty to anyone else...I had to show it to myself. Now let me make this radically clear here...I have NOT always been the best person when it comes to telling the truth. I'm definitely no saint, yet I am fully aware of my shortcomings.

I love love so I protect what I shouldn't...if we're being radically honest. I give alot of myself to feel "loved" or even appreciated to those that I shouldn't. I'm a peaceful yet non bullshit person by no choice of my own. It's in my DNA. Annnnddd chile now that I'm 44.5, know myself wayyyyy better, there's no telling what type of "radical" you might get from me! It took me a very long time to get to where I am today.

Radical honesty can be hard and sometimes even hurtful. Not just for the person delivering it, but also for the person on the receiving in. I've hurt people both intentionally and non intentionally. My best interest was not always what happened which severed a few relationships. Again, if we're being radically honest I was hurt just like the people in those relationships. Hurt because I assumed that they would want the same for me as I would want for them...best interest. As I embark on Sequel 45, I'm claiming everything that was taken and everything that I'm supposed to have. New chapters, new beginnings, new relationships, new radicalness!!

Be Radically Honest! It's FREEING! MIND BODY & SOUL.

#findyourhappy

With Love,

LR Wilson, Founder
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Coming Through!!

You have to let people come through with the ribbon. I know I've said this before, but let me say it louder for the people in the balcony and in the bathroom out of earshot! Everybody is not rooting for you! There will be some people rooting against you because they would rather see you fail due to their own selfishness. So when I say you have to let people come through with the ribbon, I mean you have to let them win at whatever it is they are trying to do!

Every game does not require you to participate. Relationships, friendships, situationships...all the "ships" at some point make it to the finish line. Being able to understand that you can't be a participant in every game requires you to do some deep and real self examination. I have cried many nights regarding all of those types of "ships" because I thought I was doing the right thing by allowing myself to be what they wanted me to be. Or even do what they wanted me to do when it wasn't what was best for me and my situation. Welllll I had to realize that what I needed to do was focus on what I need to do for me. As selfish as it may sound, it had to be done because I seemed to be the only one looking out for me!

I have had the pleasure and blessing of being a featured guest on The 4 Opinions podcast at KMOJ Station to discuss some of the blog pieces and my continued journey on how becoming whole. I was asked a few times when I was coming on the show and I kept putting it off. I almost "just went" one time and the universe did not align for that to happen. I wasn't ready! I was doing it to appease the situation and not do what was best for my continued healing. I reached out to Tiffany Washington, one of the founding members and one of the friends I stepped away from some time ago as I went through my own stuff, and she knew it was time! She understood I needed to be aligned to come correct...raw....and ready! Please check out the WONDERFUL weekly podcast every Thursday at 7pm CST via video at The 4 Opinions page on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/2194206240895792/posts/2371331216516626/

Lastly, one question I was asked is how long does it take to get to #findyourhappy? The answer is YOU'LL KNOW! The main thing to do is trust the process and remember that everything takes T.I.M.E.
Nothing you are going through happened overnight so it won't be fixed overnight. Most importantly in order to get to your peace...you absolutely MUST MUST MUST be HONEST with yourself...ACKNOWLEDGE your role in the situation and ACCEPT it. Until you can be honest with yourself, you can't be with anyone else. I can honestly say that it is so FREEING TO TELL YOUR TRUTH...TRUTHFULLY! Hope you caught that! Let people come through with the ribbon! You're already winning!

#findyourhappy

With Love,

LR Wilson, Founder
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