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Your Presence is No Longer Required

So about a week ago...a week ago! Sorry digressed with that lyric playing in my head! Anyway...it was about a week ago when I had a massive emotional breakdown. Life was coming at me from every direction and although it seems minuscule now, it was giant in the moment. Things were breaking down in the house I'm trying to sell and I was paying to get those things fixed. My car was making noises. I didn't see how I could attend my family reunion from a financial aspect. Juggling watching my granddiva and making sure there was enough food in the house everyday became alot. I'm usually pretty good with everything and I handle stress well...or so I thought. Mainly because I guess I don't stress over shit. If I have no control of it I don't seem to worry. Well this was not the case because I'm trying to do things and make a better life for myself and my kids financially. So during this breakdown that was coming...which I had not prepared for...the people that I KNOW or THOUGHT I KNEW would be there for me were not. I don't expect people to do for me or be there for me normally, but this time felt different. I have learned to live by No Expectations equal No Disappointments.

Yes...it was disheartening to say the least but it taught me a valuable lesson about this thing called life....Your Presence is No Longer Required. Through the years I have cut people out of my life and vice versa. Those times either were a blessing or a blessing. Yes I wrote it exactly as I should have. Sometimes you have to chalk things up and move on in order to be your best self. When you figure out that someone or some thing's presence is no longer required in your life, you have reached a whole different level of self acceptance and awareness.

Now there were those who came to my rescue without even knowing they were and those who were fully aware that I'm not myself. They saw through my "I'm fine" yet didn't force themselves on me. They also know that when I'm going through I need distance and to do me in order to get to "I'm ok". Thank you to those near and far who saw right through the smoke and mirrors.

Cutting people off is both freeing yet sad. For whatever reason you need to announce Your Presence is No Longer Required, be sure and very sure that's what works for YOU. Don't do things that allow you to compromise who you are in order to appease them. Remain true to yourself and what you have to do in order to #findyourhappy

It's not always pretty but yet necessary. In the event someone feels as if they need to cut you out of their lives, be ok with it and move right along as painful as it may be....it's for you and possibly for them also to move to the next level. We never know what is going on with people even when they tell us because no one person, in my experience, will tell you all that's going on but reach out to people when they cross your mind. Don't change who you are. Remain consistent yet guarded. Don't be afraid to put your sanity first and announce Your Presence is No Longer Required!

#findyourhappy

With Love,

LR Wilson, Founder
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Breaking Down to Your Breakthrough

When I tell y'all I don't look like what I've been through and what I'm going through...it's all a blessing! This week has been extremely trying, tiring and draining. If you've ever sold a house, you know part of the traumatic event I am going through. Yes I said traumatic shit! When you've been in your comfort zone and then suddenly or not so sudden, you have to adjust your life in order to accommodate your new life after divorce, it's trying, tiring and traumatic. I'm a strong woman but there comes a time when that strength is broken because as a strong woman I need stronger women in my corner to help navigate this Breakdown to get to my Breakthrough!

People who really know me know that I don't ask for help, yet I'm always willing to help others in need. If I reach out for help help...you know I'm in desperate need and that in itself is a redflag for those who know me. I'm just not cut like that and I firmly believe that I will be rewarded for helping others. I will go and go and go giving all over without asking for anything in return. This is yes a blessing and a curse because I find myself back in the same situation of not helping myself. This is when my mental and emotional state begin to digress.

This week I have cried because I was overwhelmed trying to hold it altogether. I couldn't. I was done and felt defeated. I felt as if my world was all crashing down. I had that feeling of being smothered alive. Imagine being placed in a grave, alive, dirt being thrown onto you and slowly you begin to have trouble breathing because you're suffocating. I mean yea one might say I watch too much ID CHANNEL, but the feeling was real and intense. I was being smothered alive with life's happenings. It was one thing after another beginning with money being spent that I had not allotted to spend. Plans changed because money had to be spent elsewhere. This house I loved so much 12 years ago, well just like my marriage....we're done!

I had a FULL COMPLETE BREAKDOWN! I was reminded by one of my sister-in-law's that everything will be ok. It will all work out. Although it may not seem like it and I'm ready to be done, it's not time. Trust and believe she said...when it's the right time you will get everything you deserve and more. That resonated with me because I truly believe in things happening in God's time.

Earlier in the day my very good friend reminded me that we are friends and he is here to help. Of course I said I would let him know, yet didn't. He continually reminds me that's what friends are for. I know this, but I never want to feel like a burden to anyone and I absolutely despise owing anybody. He hates when I do that because we are friends and I need to work on accepting help. I'm a work in progress.

My girlfriend Peaches knew something was off the with me, but of course I don't say anything. Finally she got the text. "I'm tired". Men...when a woman says those words....game over. She rallied me with her kind and inspirational words. When asked what she could do to help. "Nothing but thank you" I said. Well my girlfriend Jenny, the rebel, got that same message, didn't listen to me about not needing anything, got in her truck, drove to me with Patron and all the fixings. She never was good at following directions anyway. I needed that...but didn't know it. I mean the Patron always, but her presence is what I'm talking about. I went from Breakdown to Breakthrough in the hour plus she came to comfort me. We laughed, listened to music, talked and drank Patron on the patio of the house that's stressing me. We were Channeling Tequila!

Sometimes the strongest part of being a woman or a man isn't declining help...it's accepting it. I had to Breakdown to get to my Breakthrough! I'm ready....

With Love,

LR WILSON, FOUNDER
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Every Valley Derived From A Wilderness

When you're in the wilderness you can't see the valley for the trees. There will be many difficult times in life where you will need to make decisions that free you from the wilderness. Those decisions may be family, friends, relationships, situationships, jobs or just plain revamping your own self care.

I've always been a person that thrives on relationships. It's in my makeup! Anyone that knows me can tell you that I'm about networking and building relationships. At the same time, I'm also cognizant of those relationships that no longer serve a purpose in my life. It's nothing that either of us have done, it's just the simple fact of "the valley is in need of them" which is why they must move on.

I also have had relationships that either I walked away from or they walked away from me. Those are the ones that seem to lay heaviest on my heart, in my mind and my spirit. Although there was a departure, I'm the type of person that long for and/or need closure. I will still be there for them if needed, yet I learned that I can't expect that from everyone.

I was told by one of my girlfriends that everyone is not like me. For instance, I can have a romantic/intimate relationship with someone, never have that again and yet remain friends because the friendship is more important to me than intimacy. NEWSFLASH! Some can't do that and I'm either stupid or a genius! Either way there's something "unique" about my ability to do that. This is where that whole can't see the valley because of the trees in the wilderness comes in.

The reason I can't see what others see wrong with that whole scenario is because I'm in the wilderness searching for the valley. Searching for fair ground so that all of us will maintain the relationship we worked to not only put in place but to maintain. I love frolicking in the valley and living life. When I'm in the wilderness, I'm lost and it's desolate. My mind is going 1k miles an hour trying to figure out how to right a wrong that I already apologized for and didn't even understand what my role in it was/is. All for the sake of saving the relationship. Some times those relationships aren't the ones that need saving and that's ok. We must understand that everything has a season. Everything has an expiration date. Everything has a resurrection date too whether it's with you or without you. Everything will come full circle just as the universe has planned it to be. When you're in the wilderness, climb those trees you can't see past so that you're high enough to enjoy the beauty of the valley below.

With Love,

LR WILSON, FOUNDER

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