Secure the Bag!! This is definitely something I am very familiar with! What does it mean to Secure the Bag you ask??? According to urbandictionary.com "The bag being anything you want/desire. You must obtain it or accomplish your goal. Secure the bag;" SO YES . . SECURE THE BAG!! Anyone that is vaguely familiar with how I operate will know that any time I have a set goal in place, I give 110% to that mission of accomplishment. I don't play games about my coins . . point blank period! I know that I have obligations and people depending on me so nothing will sway me from my mission of "Secure the Bag"!
I remember going through depression yet and still every single day I got up an functioned "normally" in order to Secure the Bag aka my paycheck! Although I didn't feel like "adulting" at the end of the day I also did not want to be jobless, homeless and hopeless. Of course I had support systems in place that never ever waiver, aka my mom and kids, but that was not/is not their responsibility to make sure I'm doing what I need to do in order to maintain life as an adult. My mother would move mountains with her bare hands for her children and not give it a second thought. AGAIN . .that is NOT her responsibility although it's good to know that she's there if needed.
I have always been really good with people so instinctively I have always gone into jobs or taken on tasks that require me to work with people in a helping aspect. My many, many side jobs included or includes selling jewelry, selling beauty products, selling health wellness, teaching as a adjunct professor, blogger, mentoring, motivational speaker and most recently taking on the job as an independent travel agent . .again "Secure the Bag". If you're looking to travel . .I got you! http://lrwilsontravel.inteletravel.com . .PLUG ACCOMPLISHED!
One would think with all these responsibilities I would be tired . .the reality however is that I get tired when I'm not engaging in something that is fulfilling. I LOVE HELPING PEOPLE! I adore that helping others #findyourhappy makes me happy! YES, I will make some money but the key thing for me is fulfillment! So when I'm talking about "Secure the Bag" it's much deeper than money . . it's a lifestyle of fulfillment for me and helping others to be fulfilled. I don't engage in business practices that I am not passionate about or I will not use myself. That's just being hypocritical to be quiet honest. AND . .if I find out later down the line that something is "just not right" . .I will drop that venture and move right along! I like my name associated with character not reputation because that's what really matters and will stand against everything else. "Secure the Bag"!
You have to ask yourself . .what is it in my bag that I am trying to secure? Is it attainable? Is my bag too heavy? Is my bag full of b.s.? I mean that's the adult thing to do if you are ever going to accomplish anything. If ever you are going to be honest with anyone . .it has to at least be yourself. Be realistic about what's in your bag. Let's face it . . some people will not be on board with you securing your bag because that means they are either put on the backburner or simply not on the list and that's ok! Hell it is YOUR BAG that YOU are securing so whatever is in it . .YOU OWN IT! Always believe in yourself and know that YOUR HAPPINESS is really what matters at the end of the day. "When mama happy . .everybody happy!" "Secure the Bag"!
#findyourhappy
With Love
LR Wilson, Founder
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Friday, February 23, 2018
Friday, February 16, 2018
To Forgive Or Not To Forgive . . .That Is The Question!
Let me start off by saying forgiveness is a VERY hard thing to do in any situation. It takes practice, practice, practice if you truly want it to happen. I say that because just like anything you want to master, you have to practice it over and over again until it's near perfection. To Forgive or Not To Forgive. . .That Is The Question! Well I'm here to answer that question for you today! Yes, emphatically YES I scream to you! Forgiveness is not for the other person, but for YOU!
Think back to a time when something was done to you by a person . .or multiple times . .let's just be honest . .you were sitting pissed off and they were living their lives like nothing ever happened! I'll give you a few moments to reflect on that . . . .ok move on now! YES you were brewing and they were partying because 1) they may not have felt they did anything wrong; 2) they came to terms with whatever it was; 3) they moved on. You, however, are still in a funk. . .unable to think straight or live your life because you have not forgiven the situation. To Forgive or Not To Forgive. . .That Is The Question!
In my life I have been both the perpetrator and the victim in forgiving. I've done things to people and vice versa; however the real test was when I was the one in the forgiving position. Obviously it's easier for the person who committed the act to move on much quicker than those they have hurt. In order to forgive you have to be willing to move on. When I say move on, I'm not talking about acting like the sh*t never happened; because it did happen! Hold . .I need to digress for a moment! I absolutely can NOT stand when people do things, forgiveness happens and then they act like it never happened. NO . . it still happened . .the choice was made to forgive and move on . .not to forget it ever existed! Whew . .ok . .back to the blog!
Some say if you have not forgotten you have not forgiven. I, for one, do not believe that. You can still remember things that happened so that you learn lessons from it. You don't; however have to continue to bring those things up. . . which then in my mind tells me that you have not forgiven. Not vice versa. It's like a sore . . .if you continually pull the scab off of it as it's getting well . . .it will not get well. You have to leave it alone so that it heals and blends back into the skin. Don't allow anyone to stunt your growth in forgiving others. It's YOUR sanity . .not theirs. You are able to live your life without regret when you FORGIVE! Trust me . . I have been through this over and over again!
To Forgive Or Not To Forgive . . .That Is The Question! What will you forgive today so that you have freedom from guilt, shame or regret? Just know that whatever it is . .IT'S FOR YOU . .NOT THEM! To Forgive Or Not To Forgive . . .That Is The Question!
#findyourhappy
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LR Wilson, Founder
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Think back to a time when something was done to you by a person . .or multiple times . .let's just be honest . .you were sitting pissed off and they were living their lives like nothing ever happened! I'll give you a few moments to reflect on that . . . .ok move on now! YES you were brewing and they were partying because 1) they may not have felt they did anything wrong; 2) they came to terms with whatever it was; 3) they moved on. You, however, are still in a funk. . .unable to think straight or live your life because you have not forgiven the situation. To Forgive or Not To Forgive. . .That Is The Question!
In my life I have been both the perpetrator and the victim in forgiving. I've done things to people and vice versa; however the real test was when I was the one in the forgiving position. Obviously it's easier for the person who committed the act to move on much quicker than those they have hurt. In order to forgive you have to be willing to move on. When I say move on, I'm not talking about acting like the sh*t never happened; because it did happen! Hold . .I need to digress for a moment! I absolutely can NOT stand when people do things, forgiveness happens and then they act like it never happened. NO . . it still happened . .the choice was made to forgive and move on . .not to forget it ever existed! Whew . .ok . .back to the blog!
Some say if you have not forgotten you have not forgiven. I, for one, do not believe that. You can still remember things that happened so that you learn lessons from it. You don't; however have to continue to bring those things up. . . which then in my mind tells me that you have not forgiven. Not vice versa. It's like a sore . . .if you continually pull the scab off of it as it's getting well . . .it will not get well. You have to leave it alone so that it heals and blends back into the skin. Don't allow anyone to stunt your growth in forgiving others. It's YOUR sanity . .not theirs. You are able to live your life without regret when you FORGIVE! Trust me . . I have been through this over and over again!
To Forgive Or Not To Forgive . . .That Is The Question! What will you forgive today so that you have freedom from guilt, shame or regret? Just know that whatever it is . .IT'S FOR YOU . .NOT THEM! To Forgive Or Not To Forgive . . .That Is The Question!
#findyourhappy
With Love
LR Wilson, Founder
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Friday, February 9, 2018
If It Does Not Fit . . You Must Quit!
Anyone walking this earth over the age of 25 years old should be fully aware of the OJ Simpson trial. Johnny Cochran's famous line from the defense's closing argument was "If it does not fit . .you must acquit" when he referred to the bloody gloves that were found at the murder scene. Not only did he say that, he also had OJ to put the gloves on . .which didn't fit! Whether you were for or against the not guilty verdict, the bottom line is the prosecution could not prove beyond a reasonable doubt that he OJ did it; therefore he was acquitted.
As I was meditating over what topic to do this week, those famous words came to me . .obviously in a different form as I thought about things in my life, past, present and future . . "If It Does Not Fit . . You Must Quit!" I have never identified myself as a quitter and I most often go at things full force when I do them. Then I had to realize that some things are just not meant to fit in my life and with that said I will have to quit! When I say "things" I'm speaking in general terms because it encompasses relationships, situations, people, goals, etc. If we do a REAL reality check in order to #findyourhappy, you will indeed see that many things do NOT fit . .so Quit!
Quit making loose excuses for things you want to hold on to that do not uplift you, promote you or intrigue you in a way that elevates you to the next level! As a female, a mother, and a Leo quite frankly, it is my natural instinct to protect, to nurture, to support, to be a caretaker but at the end of the day I have to ask myself "self are you getting back any of those things in return?" If the answer is an emphatic NO . . then "If It Does Not Fit . . You Must Quit!" Throw in the towel . .take that L . .move things right along to #findyourhappy. I have learned through therapy that MY relationship with people is MY relationship. I can no longer vouch for others and accept the responsibility of maintaining their relationships. IT'S NOT MINE TO DO!! It was extremely hard for me to grasp that concept but FINALLY it happened one day. I have to literally speak aloud to myself "this is not your relationship" in order to stay on task. It's innate!! I need to fix things and make sure everything and everyone is ok, otherwise it messes up my psyche . .I mean it use to! "If It Does Not Fit . .You Must Quit!" I had to become selfish about my own mental health in order to get to this place. I had to be the one to let go of everyone else's drama in order to get centered.
Sometimes it's for our own mental health that we Take That L in order to survive.What are you quitting today? Is it a relationship? Is it a job? Is it depression? Is it a goal? Is it a bad habit? Whatever it is . . "If It Does Not Fit . . You Must Quit!"
#findyourhappy
With Love
LR Wilson, Founder
IG: @channelingtequila
FB: Channeling Tequila
Email: channelingtequila@gmail.com
As I was meditating over what topic to do this week, those famous words came to me . .obviously in a different form as I thought about things in my life, past, present and future . . "If It Does Not Fit . . You Must Quit!" I have never identified myself as a quitter and I most often go at things full force when I do them. Then I had to realize that some things are just not meant to fit in my life and with that said I will have to quit! When I say "things" I'm speaking in general terms because it encompasses relationships, situations, people, goals, etc. If we do a REAL reality check in order to #findyourhappy, you will indeed see that many things do NOT fit . .so Quit!
Quit making loose excuses for things you want to hold on to that do not uplift you, promote you or intrigue you in a way that elevates you to the next level! As a female, a mother, and a Leo quite frankly, it is my natural instinct to protect, to nurture, to support, to be a caretaker but at the end of the day I have to ask myself "self are you getting back any of those things in return?" If the answer is an emphatic NO . . then "If It Does Not Fit . . You Must Quit!" Throw in the towel . .take that L . .move things right along to #findyourhappy. I have learned through therapy that MY relationship with people is MY relationship. I can no longer vouch for others and accept the responsibility of maintaining their relationships. IT'S NOT MINE TO DO!! It was extremely hard for me to grasp that concept but FINALLY it happened one day. I have to literally speak aloud to myself "this is not your relationship" in order to stay on task. It's innate!! I need to fix things and make sure everything and everyone is ok, otherwise it messes up my psyche . .I mean it use to! "If It Does Not Fit . .You Must Quit!" I had to become selfish about my own mental health in order to get to this place. I had to be the one to let go of everyone else's drama in order to get centered.
Sometimes it's for our own mental health that we Take That L in order to survive.What are you quitting today? Is it a relationship? Is it a job? Is it depression? Is it a goal? Is it a bad habit? Whatever it is . . "If It Does Not Fit . . You Must Quit!"
#findyourhappy
With Love
LR Wilson, Founder
IG: @channelingtequila
FB: Channeling Tequila
Email: channelingtequila@gmail.com
Friday, February 2, 2018
Gaining A Loss
"Gaining A Loss" what an oxymoron! Oxy what? Oxy who? (in my Jigga voice)! Yea so an oxymoron in laymen's terms is a contradictory statement. Now the real question is how are we Gaining A Loss? Loss happens in everyday life and the range is quite wide. Loss of a loved one, loss of a relationship, loss of a job, loss of self . . pretty much anything you endure in an everyday situation can be preceded with the word loss where needed. In life we often focus on those things that were loss and not on what we have gained from it! The very first time I experienced loss was when my maternal grandmother, Rosie passed away. I could not define what I was feeling and I didn't want to acknowledge that she would no longer be there for me. I lived with my grandmother until I was about four years old and then I, along with my sisters, visited her every summer so it was a common thread in my life for her to be there. Although she lived in Arkansas and we lived in Mississippi, it was just as if there was no distance between us. I ADORED my grandmother. Now let me tell you a little about her! She never worked a day in her life and was always taken care of by her husband or boyfriend once her husband passed away. We would fight about me wearing a slip under my dress because all respectable young ladies wore slips. (insert eyeroll) Yep . .I was a rebel then too . .LOL! She made sure we were leaving the house in tip top shape . .even going to the Piggly Wiggly!! For you Northerners/Midwesterners, the Piggly Wiggly is the Cub Foods of the South. I was living in California when she passed away and you could have scooped me up with a spoon I was so devastated. That was the most tragic loss of my life. What I gained from that loss were the memories that we shared through the years. I could actually remember my childhood living with her, our summers we spent with her and the many times over and over again she would hug and kiss us. I also remember the whippings with the switch that we had to go and get ourselves too, lol . .but hey what's most importantly is that my Gaining A Loss moments were the best ones of all . . the loving memories, her smell, her voice, her smile and her laugh.
Loss of a relationship was another Gaining A Loss moment in my life. Lord I tell you . .I thought I was surely going to die and here I am living and sh*t! Remember when I talked about the dreadful D word in last week's post . .depression . . for those of you who have to now go back and catch up that's what it is! That hit me like a ten ton truck! I was going through life in a robotic state . . no lie! Just when I thought all life was lost . . on a man . . and I realized it was NOT . . HOLD ON Y'ALL . .here I come Gaining A Loss! After that experience and jumping over the hurdles that were placed in front of me because I was not prepared financially, emotionally or physically for that to happen in my life, it woke me up BIG TIME!! My Gaining A Loss moment was that I needed to get my finances in order, emotionally I had to center myself back to MY HAPPY and physically I needed to be strong enough to take on everyday challenges. These are things I didn't think twice about because I was complacent.
Gaining A Loss moments help us to recognize WHO WE ARE and WHAT WE HAVE TO OFFER to not only ourselves but to the world in general. There are a lot of people who depend on us whether we recognize it or not. Sometimes we don't even know that people are depending on us because they are not directly connected to us personally. For example, when I am walking through the skyways at my job, just about every 10 to 15 steps someone is speaking to me or stopping me to say hi, give a hug, waving etc. Many of them I have NO CLUE who they are; however I impacted their lives in some positive way otherwise they would be avoiding me. Anyone who has accompanied me to coffee or lunch or whatever can attest to the many times we are stopped before we get to our destination. I'm not saying this to brag or boast. I'm saying it because we don't know what people are going through on a day to day basis and when we are having a Gaining A Loss moment in our lives, we shine through for others.
Don't allow a loss to be a bad thing in your life. Every thing happens for a reason and every reason will be defined. Our destiny is already written I firmly believe. Everything we go through is already known. No man or woman can tell us what it is or when it will be because they are not in control. Focus on having a Gaining A Loss moment when things don't go as planned. What have you gained from that loss? Was it experience? Was it a skill? Was it sanity? Was it peace? Was it self love? Was it redirection? What ever it was . . FIND IT! Our plan is not our own anyway. WE are merely vessels on this earth and what we put out into the universe will be what we get back in this temporary life. Always remember that YOU ARE STRONG, YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL, YOU ARE HANDSOME, YOU ARE SPECIAL, YOU ARE EQUIPPED, YOU ARE LOVED, YOU ARE GAINING A LOSS!
#findyourhappy
With Love
LR Wilson, Founder
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Loss of a relationship was another Gaining A Loss moment in my life. Lord I tell you . .I thought I was surely going to die and here I am living and sh*t! Remember when I talked about the dreadful D word in last week's post . .depression . . for those of you who have to now go back and catch up that's what it is! That hit me like a ten ton truck! I was going through life in a robotic state . . no lie! Just when I thought all life was lost . . on a man . . and I realized it was NOT . . HOLD ON Y'ALL . .here I come Gaining A Loss! After that experience and jumping over the hurdles that were placed in front of me because I was not prepared financially, emotionally or physically for that to happen in my life, it woke me up BIG TIME!! My Gaining A Loss moment was that I needed to get my finances in order, emotionally I had to center myself back to MY HAPPY and physically I needed to be strong enough to take on everyday challenges. These are things I didn't think twice about because I was complacent.
Gaining A Loss moments help us to recognize WHO WE ARE and WHAT WE HAVE TO OFFER to not only ourselves but to the world in general. There are a lot of people who depend on us whether we recognize it or not. Sometimes we don't even know that people are depending on us because they are not directly connected to us personally. For example, when I am walking through the skyways at my job, just about every 10 to 15 steps someone is speaking to me or stopping me to say hi, give a hug, waving etc. Many of them I have NO CLUE who they are; however I impacted their lives in some positive way otherwise they would be avoiding me. Anyone who has accompanied me to coffee or lunch or whatever can attest to the many times we are stopped before we get to our destination. I'm not saying this to brag or boast. I'm saying it because we don't know what people are going through on a day to day basis and when we are having a Gaining A Loss moment in our lives, we shine through for others.
Don't allow a loss to be a bad thing in your life. Every thing happens for a reason and every reason will be defined. Our destiny is already written I firmly believe. Everything we go through is already known. No man or woman can tell us what it is or when it will be because they are not in control. Focus on having a Gaining A Loss moment when things don't go as planned. What have you gained from that loss? Was it experience? Was it a skill? Was it sanity? Was it peace? Was it self love? Was it redirection? What ever it was . . FIND IT! Our plan is not our own anyway. WE are merely vessels on this earth and what we put out into the universe will be what we get back in this temporary life. Always remember that YOU ARE STRONG, YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL, YOU ARE HANDSOME, YOU ARE SPECIAL, YOU ARE EQUIPPED, YOU ARE LOVED, YOU ARE GAINING A LOSS!
#findyourhappy
With Love
LR Wilson, Founder
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