Intimate Space Invasion

The first thought that comes to mind when I hear the word intimate is sex. I'm just keeping it real! I mean yes intimacy has some relevance during sex, yet sex is sometimes just that...sex. There are no intimate exchanges. It's simply about empty pleasures. You do the do...and go on your way in life. Luckily for those of you reading this today, I won't go there because we all know, well if you've been following, I can have that real conversation with the best of them. Today's intimacy discussion is more about allowing people into you intimate space that most of us hold near, dear and close.

We can't always divulge everything about our flaws, faults, self misconceptions about ourselves to everyone because that allows them to invade our intimate space. We open ourselves up to the same type of abuse that we attempted to remove ourselves from and not even intentionally. It's because we still have that trusting side of us and the illusion that everyone has our best interest at heart. NEWSFLASH...THEY DON'T!

I've had guys who were there to "comfort me" in their own special way of reminding me of my past and me allowing them to invade my intimate space because I became too comfortable. I'm pretty open about things I've done and been through so that in itself is sometimes overwhelming for men and women. If you can't be honest with yourself, hell you definitely can't be honest with anyone else. It took me a long time to get to this place of honesty, openness and accountability so I have zero plans of changing that. Now what I have changed and continue to change is how I allow others to invade my intimate space.

Without giving a full blown tutorial on this, just know that I will tell you and show you where we stand if you need to know. This is/was a pivotal moment in my recent self discovery journey. Not running back to the comfort I knew has been a challenge because I am a giving person and I thrive in relationships, companionship, situationships, friendships...hell the "ships". I needed to become guarded again and to revisit my actions so that I'm doing exactly what it is I'm supposed to be doing.

Tomorrow is my 2nd Empowerment Event and it's about just that! Redemption...resurrection and restarts! Every person attending has a story and I'm honored to be the one to assist some with bringing it to the forefront. The right people will be in the room for the right reasons. I like it small and intimate...yet safe and empowering! Invading Intimate Space to grow and glow!

#findyourhappy

With Love,
LR Wilson, Founder
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V is for....

When is it ok to allow yourself to be vulnerable? Do you believe that there are times when we are more vulnerable than others depending on who is in your life? Although I'm asking the question, I also feel like I should kinda answer it too as it pertains to my own life. I tend to be my most vulnerable when I'm unfocused and basically just floating around. I'm literally trying to grab on to anything or anyone for some type of stability. When I say stability, I'm not talking about financially but emotionally. I'm someone that loves to love and the idea of love is beautiful...when it's done right obviously.

I also find myself vulnerable when I'm trying to prove a point or a position. I open myself up to the other person's ideations about me or the subject matter when reality it does NOT even matter because I am who I am and that's what I'm most proud of. There are times when you, well I, think is there more I should be doing? Should I open up more? Be more vulnerable to appease others?

For instance, my 2nd Annual Empowerment Event was NOT even going to happen this year because I have/had so much going on in my personal life that I didn't need one more thing to obsess over. Welllllll...my soul could not rest so I had to obey and just do it! The passion of doing the event is to allow women to show their vulnerabilities and to allow themselves to look back over how they got to their moment of truth and empowerment. I love love love helping other women feel empowered in whatever arena they choose to display it. I had a VERY short time frame to get everything together and things are coming together quite nicely with the help of some beautiful souls who needed this just as much as I do. For the record...I don't make one dime off of this event so it's more than just a gig to me and I obsess over numbers because I want people to get what they need. Then I step back and say those who are there are there for a purpose...and that's what matters! It's the passion that drives me!

So with that said, I've come to the conclusion that it's ok for me to be vulnerable in certain areas in my life and with certain people. Gauge your vulnerability and make sure you're taking care of YOU first! It's ok to be selfish with self! I hope to see you at the event next Sunday!

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#findyourhappy

With Love,

LR Wilson, Founder
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What Really is My Worth?


Am I worthy of the worth that I say I have? This question on worth has been swirling in my mouth like being at a vineyard for a good wine tasting. I mean I've never been to one, but that's how I imagine it to be just by watching tv. I can taste the wine swirling on my palate just as I can taste the question posed today. The mere definition of worth means "equivalent in value to the sum or item specified". Am I equivalent in value? If so, the value of what?

As women, well men too, the phrase "know your worth" is spread abroad yet we have nothing to compare our value to. Yes, I have even said those words and to be quite honest I have no damn idea what it truly means in my life. I can only speak for myself. Now there may be some of you reading this that know exactly what your worth is. I'm just not one of them. I mean I know I'm a good person...for the most part. If we're being truly transparent I have some shit I need to work on and through, but that's part of my growth...continued growth. I know that I'm not always making good decisions that will allow me to be my best self emotionally, spiritually or even physically because I'm always trying to do better. I'm human and I make mistakes. Even intentional mistakes in order to preserve my mental health. Does any of that define my worth? If so, just reading this alone pretty much shows my worth is not that great.

Knowing your worth is very different from worthiness. We are worthy of love, respect and appreciation. There is no magic number of value that can be placed on that. Being who you are, asking and expecting those things should be the norm when you're in any "ship" (i.e. relationship, friendship, situationship etc). Just being me is enough to determine my worth. There are no two people quite the same on this earth. Not even identical twins! We all bring extra spice to everyone we encounter. With that said, there's no need to define or even allow anyone else to tell you your value...it's infinite!

So the next time you're questioning your worth...just remember it can't be defined! See you all at the empowerment event! #findyourhappy

With Love,

LR WILSON, FOUNDER
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When Ugly Crying Cleanses the Soul

Have you ever had a moment when all you can think about is one thing in particular or even one person? Everywhere you look there's either a commerical, a sign or a song about it? Well that has been my entire week. This one word has awakened me out of my sleep, orgasmed my mind and spirit all week long so clearly I had to blog about it! Keep your undies on....

See when something is so pressing like that and present in everyday things, that's a sign from the universe that you need to do something with or about it. My outlet is writing so that's what I do when I'm pressed with that feeling. The focus word of the week sent from the universe is water! Yessss...I know right. I'm like water? Why? How? I mean what's so fascinating about water that I need to constantly be bombarded with that word!?

Since you so impatiently waited for that tidbit...here's the science behind it all. Water is one of the elements provided by the universe that can transform into a solid, become a liquid and a gas! Yea made skills that water has! The wonderful thing about water is that it also cleanses. Our bodies are 60% water or something like that. Y'all know math was not my strong point! I mean look it up if you want accuracy lol! The point is water serves many purposes and the cleansing is what I'll touch on today.

I've always been told that crying cleanses the soul. Those tears come from the natural water in our bodies. You ever had one of those hurts that you needed to "ugly cry" at because a normal one wouldn't do? This is when that water comes in handy! Ladies and gents I've had so many of those ugly cries over the last few years that they turned into tears of joy finally. Most recently I cried over a lost friendship. At some point it may rejuvenate, but as for now....I'm at peace with it and I got there by acceptance. Now that was just the "normal cry" that I spoke of. That ugly cry baby....that's a whole NUTHA emotion! Had a moment...back to water!

Water has the power to make things grow and also to destroy them. So it's kinda an oxymoron! It nourishes the soil yet can flood everything and kill it. When you're going through trials and tribulations think about how water plays such an intricate role in that situation. You get to ugly cry in order to cleanse your soul. At the same time you will be flooding out the hurt and pain while nourishing your growth in that area. Of all the natural elements gifted to us by the universe....water is the winner!

You have permission to ugly cry now! It's time to let it all go so new growth can happen! #findyourhappy

As a matter of fact, attend this year's empowerment event and we can ugly cry together! The link is right here!


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With Love,

LR Wilson, Founder
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