Once Upon A Time....

Once upon a time has always been the line that spiraled the reader head first into a story of whatever. Just those few words gave the reader the enthusiasm that this would be a great narrative!!! But before we get to that...First and foremost I would like to apologize to my loyal Channeling Tequila followers. I have not written in almost a month. To be quite honest, I was not feeling inspired and I did not get my usual message from the universe. Or so I thought! The message has been there for weeks and I refused to see or hear it. The message was loud and clear yet I refused to acknowledge that this inspiration was not for me and I was being selfish. Selfish in a bad way and not in a good way as in self care.

Week after week I have relied on the universe to speak to me and to direct me. Me not feeling inspired was a lesson for me to learn. Giving up was not an option and for two years I've had your attention. I procreated and birthed this baby. This is not the time to walk away. I got discouraged as the viewings went down. Selfishly I thought no one was reading or depending on my weekly message. Well I'm here to say that I was dead wrong! Many have reached out to ask if I was ok....if the blog was going to continue or if I needed anything. This meant alot to me. I'm not the emotional type that need accolades or even accept them. This time I had to!

Confession....I'm really not good at accepting compliments and I'm working everyday to respond with something other than no response. I have to literally stop my mind and acknowledge the compliment to fixate my mouth in responding with Thank You! Yes I'm still a work in progress. We all are...until we leave the earth.

I've been working on some amazing things to help others. For those of you who don't know, I am also an Empowerment Coach. I teamed up with C2C Coaching & Consulting. An Empowerment Coach is a little different from a Life Coach yet some of the same practices cross over. More specifically as an Empowerment Coach I assist persons with gaining confidence and execution of goals set so that they are attainable. I'm super excited about the opportunity! If you're interested...check out C2Ccoaching.org

Now that I've plugged that...back to the issue at hand! My selfishness! Once upon a time there was a girl that needed to feel appreciated and loved for who she thought she was. She allowed so many to tell her everything that she wasn't and she began to believe that. Then she had to accept someone else's narrative because she didn't have her own. In order to get to a place of serenity and truth, I needed to acknowledge and accept many ugly things about myself. It's hard and it's definitely ugly when you have to do those things. The reality is you have to write your own narrative in order for it to be effective. Until we can acknowledge, accept and appreciate those parts of ourselves, someone else will write the narrative and allow others to see you through their works.

I don't know who this is for, but it's time to write your narrative for the world to see and be healed through you. You've been waiting long enough and timing is everything. Your time is here! With that said, thank you for allowing me this space to write and I appreciate every read, share, post, response, message, phone call, email and text. Until next week...#findyourhappy

With Love,

LR Wilson, Founder
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Open Book

She was an open book
He was illiterate
Not only did he not read
He was illiterate in the sense of her need

He thought he gave her the world
There's nothing more needed for this girl
The things that she craved you didn't see
Instead of hearing her soul you heard "me"

She was an open book
He was illiterate
She tried showing him the way
He was illiterate and thought she was okay
Pushing him to the same page was a task
Hell did you even open the book she asked

She was an open book
He was illiterate to say the least
Not in the way you're thinking you see
The book is a metaphor that he chose to ignore
He was illiterate for sure

Sweet Dreams Collection

LR WILSON

*I own the rights to this cited work*

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Time Matters

Day by day we are living on borrowed time. Nobody knows when our time is up so during such a crisis, time matters more than ever now. Many of us are home taking care of family, working from home, home schooling and pretty much there's never been enough hours in the day...and for sure now. What we do in the time that we have before us matters. 

Time matters when it comes to our daily mental health. We must do everything in our power to keep some control in such a chaotic time in life. Staying active mentally and physically is a healthy response to the limited resources and time we have. Let me be the first to say that I am not always vigilant with working out; however just as I was getting back into the gym on a regular basis, "this" happened. I had to do something to stay on task as well as to continue the process of taking excess lower body weight off so my knees can stay working! I found Afrokaribe on a Facebook search with Val "I Am Zumba" Turner. It is donation based and virtual! Perfect for me!! I love to dance and it's a real workout! Check it out! https://www.eventbrite.com/o/coach-val-vf-health-fitness-solutions-30079815040?aff=eand

Mentally I continue to not surround myself with negative energy. If I encounter it, I'm at a place in my life where it doesn't bother me. Time matters because without my persistence to keep my physical and mental health in tact during this time, I would be SOL! Although I have my family, I don't have another intricate part of my time with me...my work family. Yes virtual is cool but we're a social family and that matters to how good a team can be.

Don't let this time "out of the norm" get you into a place that you stay unfamiliar. I'm still making business moves and collaborating with others. I'm blessed to be able to work from home so I'm not losing anything financially. What will you do with this extra time that matters in so many ways? How will you better yourself or assist others with being better?  What does YOUR TIME look like? If not now...when? Time matters!

#findyourhappy 

With Love,

LR Wilson, Founder 

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What Broke You Will Heal You

We've all either been told or read some literature regarding not going back to what broke you. In some instances that is definitely good advice; however in others you may need to revisit what broke you in order to get to the healing that's needed. Trying to figure out what that is happens to be detrimental to your self care and overall enjoyment of life ahead of you.

Never in a million years would I have thought that I wouldn't be in a relationship with the man I spent damn near 30 years of my life with. I wasn't prepared for that because it never crossed my psyche that it was something that could even happen. Despite the many breakups and make ups over the years, I still never thought "oh yea we won't be together." Hell not just me but my family, friends and associates never thought it would happen either. Some even saying "y'all been together forever. I can't even believe this is real." My response about 99% of the time.."shit me either."

Getting back to the subject at hand, I had to revisit what broke me in order to figure out what my role was in everything. I had to get down and dirty in order to look at some pretty ugly shit within myself. I wasn't ready but needed to get ready for what was to come. It made me realize quite a few things.

I realized that not everybody needed to understand why I did certain things or even still do certain things. I realized that in order to be happy within myself, I needed to be happy with myself. I realized that not everyone's advice is advice that is best for me. I realized that what broke me was exactly what I needed to mend me. I realized that time "away" was time that I needed to get all of the "let me do this or that" out of my system so that when it's time for my next relationship, which by the way I have no idea what that will look like, I have nothing left to ascertain.

Most recently I had a conversation about love and I surprised myself when I said "you think this is about sex? It's deeper than that!" That statement stamped approval that I'm expecting so much more than the physical. Don't get me wrong...it definitely can be a perk...yet at the same time it can be crippling. Crippling in the sense if that's the bulk of a relationship, then the substance of things that really matter aren't at the foundation.

As with any physical affair, sex plays a prominent role. It's the passion and mysteriousness that's missing from the relationship you're in. Yep I'll just go ahead and say it for those who are clutching their perals with one hand and silently high fiving me for telling the truth with their other hand. Can your relationship survive an affair? It sure can...if the work is put in on both sides to salvage what was trashed. There has to be an understanding of what was missing in each of the person's view so they have the opportunity to provide that. Now listen, petty people will say "oh now you wanna do xyz because I told you about it!" "Uh...yea that's right because I didnt know this issue existed until you told me." Communication is key to the resolution of every situation.

Let's face it...not everyone is a good communicator or communicate on a level to which the next person understands where they are coming from. It takes work to not only understand the other person but to respond in a way that's applicable to resolving issues at hand. Not everyone will receive you or your communication which is ok. The effort put forth in doing it isn't discounted for one bit. Just know that sometimes communication is what broke you indeed what you may need to revisit.

I don't have the answers to everything; however what I do have is experience and honest self reflection. Both those things have allowed me to become a reputable Empowerment Coach and quite frankly a better person. I am not sin free and always striving to do better.
Revisit what broke you in order to heal.

#findyourhappy

With Love,

LR Wilson, Founder
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Who Moved the Ship in Partnership?

All weekend long I have been waiting on this week's topic to be revealed. As most of you know, or you do now, I don't just write about a topic. It has to be given to me! Ninety-eight percent of my blog is brought from what I'm directed to write about as it is manifested and trusted to me to deliver from the universe.

Wait no more! This week's blog topic is partnership. Yes...one would think this is so simple...yet it's very complex!
The educational definition of partnership is "an association of two or more people as partners." Now let me be the first to say that when you think of partnership you automatically go to partnership in a relationship...like an intimate relationship. I can't be the only one who thinks of this....BUT if I am..I'm here to tell you that it's more than that.

In a partnership, there comes responsibilities that you are given. Whether it's in an intimate relationship, friendship or situationship. Yes all the "ships" are involved because you either voluntarily or involuntarily took on the role of being a "partner" in whatever it is which added the "ship" to it. Even in business, you agree to be a part of something and to represent that brand. When you leave that partnership, you take with you the responsibility of either letting it go, rebuilding or rebranding it to your expectations. Whatever you decide to do, you are held to a standard to evolve.

I'm here to tell you that you are the reason something didn't flourish in the partnership. Let me tell you why...it was your responsibility to hold up your end of the partnership. If you're in tune with your destiny and accepting of that relationship's partnership it will flourish. You can't go into a partnership with ulterior motives. If you do...you will get exactly what you put into it.

Not all partnerships are good partnerships. Not everyone is ready for that responsibility and not everyone is destined to complete the journey with you. Guess what....it's ok! There's nothing more beautiful than recognizing that all energy is not good energy and you need to let it go! It hinders your growth as well as the other person. Be able to understand...accept...acknowledge and know when energies don't vibe so you can move right along into the right energy.

What will your partnership look like? Why? What is your responsibility in said partnership...or not? Remember whatever you decide...BE AUTHENTIC!

#findyourhappy

With Love,

LR Wilson, Founder
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Settling Went Out with The Trash!

Many of us have experienced heartache and disappointment in relationships. If you've never had this to happen, you are definitely an anomaly! I wouldn't wish that pain on my worst enemy. We tend to lose ourselves in the desire to be loved and to have love all at the same time settling just to say we "have somebody" when in reality we truly do not.

I've had my share of heartaches and pains as well as employed those same things onto others. Once I realized that I'm no longer settling just to have someone and that I love me more than anyone ever could, I knew then that I was done with games. Sometimes we long for something so badly that we can't see past the smoke and mirrors to see the real situation at hand.

Sis...you don't have to settle. You are loved and worth being loved by the right person. You won't have to share and you definitely won't have to prove your love by accepting bullshit. I get it...lonely is no fun. If I had to weigh my options..I'm choosing lonely over tears of heartache. I've accepted the fact that not everyone is ready for me and I'm damn sure not accepting everyone. 

Although I still love my ex, I am no longer accepting bullshit as the main course. Digesting extra drama upsets my palate so I'll sit alone and starve. The older I get the less tolerate of bullshit I am. I find myself often times reverting back to "proving" I am worthy of love and that my change has been for the better. Then I'm reminded that I don't need to prove myself to anyone. I am who I am...take it or leave it. Either way we both learn a lesson.

Anybody can be faithful...if they want to. I know this is breaking news but yes IT'S YOUR CHOICE! You can't make anyone change their behavior. Just like you can't make them love you the way you want to be loved. On the flip side, if you've never had a conversation about how you want to be loved and vice versa, you can't expect them to understand. Now listen

..if you've had that conversation and the same behavior is there, I'll go ahead and let you know they don't care...that's the hard truth. 

None of us are free from sin, yet we do have a voice in how or if we act on it. Waiting, hoping and wishing someone will change is only helping you to miss out on what/who is already ready for you. Settling went out with the trash. If you don't do nothing else after reading this post...LOVE YOU MORE. 

#findyourhappy 

With Love,

LR WILSON, FOUNDER 

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The Rant!

Things that irritate the hell out of me is selective memory and downright denial. It never ceases to amaze me that some people tend to have selective memory about what they did to a person and then there's complete denial. I'm very transparent and I've not ways been this way for fear of judgment. Then I had to realize that the only way I can get to the healing I needed was to just put it out there...own it and learn from it.

The worst thing you can do to a person is deny your part in the demise of a situation. That selective memory shit kills me. Yes..today I am venting differently and in real time. Not everyone is at a point in their lives where they accept responsibility and I get that because I've been there. Now at some point there should've been a time when you at least reflected on your role in the situation. Maybe it's just me but I wholeheartedly know that is the key to healing.

"Hurt people hurt other people" is an excuse to continue the behavior. I know all the sociology and psychology peeps heads are spinning right now. I said it and I stand by it. Because you were hurt would signify to me that you don't want anyone else to feel that type of pain. Please understand that I too have been the perpetrator of pain. Again...this is just me. There are so many undiagnosed people running around trying to self medicate by spewing trauma on others that they never dealt with or don't acknowledge.

Please get your toxic asses away from me if you're not ready to accept what is and make it better. Not just for yourself but for others involved. It's selfish to want other people to treat you a certain way, yet you're not willing to do the same. Do everyone a favor and get you some prayer and some therapy. It's life changing once you get the right one!

So with all of that said...be kind...be mindful and be healed. #findyourhappy

With Love,

LR WILSON, FOUNDER
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