Window Washer

Window Washer

Have you ever looked at how window washers do their job? Most people are annoyed that they are hanging around all day. Some window washers are on standing ladders and some are on customized ladders, called skyscrapers, with pullies if the buildings are tall enough. They wear protective gear so that they don't fall. The job itself is done very meticulously. The tools used are swapped out with every swipe of the window. This is exactly how life is. The word tools can be substituted for people, habits, etc.

We are given the tools we need every single day in order to do better and be better. Sometimes in life we have to "swap out" or "remove" old tools in order to get to our best. Every person that comes and goes in our life is there for a reason and a season. We don't know the reason or season when we're in it and sometimes we never know. It's not for us to know. We have to pick up what we have and move on to the next job that must be done.

Recently I allowed someone I once loved back into my life. My thought process was to help; however it became a hindrance on my spirit. Old things began to rise to the top that I thought I was over. Although I have matured in the process, I'm not all the way there. As much as I've tried to be "okay" with it all, my mind continues to turn and my soul is unsettled. If you're on the outside looking in, one would say "you shouldn't have allowed them back into your life". Well of course that could be said, yet at the same time it was by choice. If you've followed me, you know that my heart is bigger than I can handle at times. My soul is unsettled when I can't help or deny helping others when I can. Either way, it's not for me to diagnose. Awareness is what I have and now the work must be done to move in that awareness.

Back to the window washing. Think of windows as life. Everything is thrown at you and the windows begin to get more and more dirty. A regular wash of those windows won't get it as clean as you like so you power wash them suckers but the corners don't come clean. Those corners need to be cleaned at some point. The buildup will continue to grow and that dirt in the corner will soon spread to the rest of the window. We have to be meticulous when we clean our windows. The surface is not enough. We have to get in the corners where the most dirt builds up.

Be meticulous about cleaning your life up. It's hard at times making the decisions about who you should and shouldn't keep in your life. If you're lucky, they will even make the decision for you which can also be life changing. Take care of you and the rest will fall into place.

#findyourhappy

With Love,

LR WILSON, FOUNDER
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Resilience Race

I use to believe the race would be given to the quickest. That's not necessarily the whole truth! The race is for the resilient! In order to vacillate between the many facets of life you absolutely have to be resilient. People will try you and with those trials sometimes you have to make a decision about whether or not they will get to the finish line with you. Newsflash...everyone that started the race with you will not make it to the end! You have to drop a few people off along the way either for your sanity or theirs. No matter what...you must remain resilient in order to make it to the finish line.

This weekend's Minnesota Black Author's Expo festivities re-ignited the fire that I let die because I'm so busy helping everyone else get to the finish line as I stand on the sideline cheering. Another one of my blessed curses! I'm always making sure everyone is getting to their next level by any help I can provide, yet I'm not focused on what I need to do to get to my own finish line. Needless to say I'm a go getter and I adore helping others reach their potential; however I also need to recognize my own cheering is needed to reach my finish line. The self care I preach about is also the self
care I must be about!

I delivered a powerful spoken word piece at the Minnesota Black Author's reception the night before the Expo entitled "Let Me School You." After that delivery I was approached by many of the established authors asking if I would be selling MY BOOK OF POETRY at the expo. That resonated in my spirit! Something I have been putting off so very long, felt like "it's time". I have been given the umph I needed to get moving. The spoken "ok" from a group, essentially of strangers, whose craft I respect and feel were sincere solidified what I've wanted to make happen. So with that said...look out 2020! She's coming through winning the race!

I'm back in the race! I'm resilient! I'm restored! I'm ready!

#findyourhappy

With Love,

LR WILSON, FOUNDER
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It's Ok to Not be Ok!

It's Ok to NOT be Ok! Daily, as a woman, I'm constantly trying to make sure everyone I deal with in my life is Ok. Even when I'm not Ok! I feel like it's my duty to make sure everyone else is. I'm the first to tell people when they ask if I'm ok I will gladly say "I'm not but I will be." Those who know me know that when I say that to just give me some time and space and I will pop right back into action. Learning to give people their time and space is healthy for not only that person but for the person that cares as well. I'm to a point in my life now that if you don't want/need me around, I'm good. I've made some decisions that have altered many relationships in my life and now I'm altering my relationship with myself. I'm not begging to be a part of anyone's journey any longer. If you want me there...I'm there. If not...it's Ok.

I wasn't ok with people not wanting me in their lives at one point. Then I realized that it's a choice that was made and I needed to accept that. It doesn't change whether or not I would help them when in need; however it does change the way I deal with it all. I'm definitely not one to judge anyone so whatever decision is made, I'm sure is a decision that will benefit everyone involved. We must learn to protect ourselves mentally as well as physically and spiritually. Once I understood that protection was the ultimate end result, I was ok with it all.

I say all this to say once again, it's ok not to be ok. Not to be ok with decisions that are made. Not to be ok with being someone you're not just to pacify a situation. Not to be ok with compromising your "ships" in order to be kept in one where you're no longer needed or wanted. It's ok to not be ok with making everyone else ok with you.

#findyourhappy

With Love,

LR Wilson, Founder
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Unexpected Expectations

I've learned to have no expectations in order to protect my heart, mind and soul. The crazy thing is before I adopted this armour of protection I had soooo many expectations. I contribute alot of my hurt and pain to being let down by others...including myself. Now I just go with the flow of whatever and whatever happens happens. It may sound cold but it's my coping mechanism. What's your coping mechanism for life's battles? Is it shutting down? Not talking to other people? Taking some time for yourself?

My main concern is protecting my heart. Sometimes we put ourselves out there in order to "find" what we're looking for when in reality we already have it. It's not in another person and it's not in things. I've tried to fill my subliminal void with dates, sex, drugs, alcohol or just anything to take me away from the reality of life. When all I had to do was look in the mirror to see myself. I am enough! You are enough!

Society has programmed many of us to believe that we need more but we don't. We just want it because it's "what's right" according to societal standards. What's right seemed by the world isn't always what's right for individual people. I had to come to terms with not being ok with just wanting to have someone with me. Feeling insecure in the aspect of being lonely and even alone at times. It definitely gets old, but at the same time I'm tired of compromising myself for others in order to feel needed or wanted.

I realized I'm still in my healing process. Just when you think you're all ready to get on with life, life reminds you that you haven't done all the work necessary to get to where you want to be. And guess what??...that's ok because we are continually evolving as we take this quiz called life.

I recently was awakened out of my sleep by the universe with S.H.E.E. (Sisters Healing, Evolving & Empowered). I wanted to sleep so badly but when the universe calls, you listen. So what did I do, pop my butt right up and created that Facebook group because it needed to happen. It was gifted to me in order to help others heal. I need this group just as much as everyone else.

Lastly, the Empowerment Event was FANTASTIC! It was powerful, intimate and life changing. It was everything I could've ever wanted. The people that needed to be in the room were in the room for a purpose. They didn't know what they signed up for! Many are already vowing for next year and I'm cleansing my soul in order to make it happen again. That's some heavy loads we carry and as the coordinator, I carry mine and theirs so you got to be ready!

Thank you to everyone who participated near and far. It was truly a blessing! Remember to expect nothing in return and you'll never be disappointed!
#findyourhappy

With Love,

LR Wilson, Founder
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